Help me get a read on this... ih8BeinAlone: I was getting to the point where I don't think about my ex as much as I used to. Last week I got a card in the mail addressed from her aunt. It was a congrats on your engagement card. I felt like sh*t for a few days after that. A few things became suspicious to me after thinking about it more.
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[li"> 1. She hadn't lived here in over a year and her aunt knew that, why did she send it to my house?[/li">
[li"> 2. It was addressed to (I'll use fake names here) Jane Doe & John ____ <--- No last name for him.[/li">
[li"> 3. The street address was not on the return address.[/li">
[li"> 4. Is it even common to send out engagement cards?[/li">
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So the other night I got out an old letter she had written me and compared handwriting. It was an almost dead on match! I'm pretty confident that she had wrote the card and purposely sent it to my house.
This really makes me wonder what her motive is. I firmly believe she's engaged. I've tried to be friends with her but she refuses to even acknowledge me let alone talk to me. The only thing I can think of is that it's 1 final "F*ck Y** Tom".
Oh well, how genuine can this engagement be if she's still trying to pull one over on me? I'll tell you what, that girl was one of the nicest people I've ever met and also one of the most cutthroat vindictive people I've ever met. I really mean that too. The girl would do anything for me when I was with her, but the minute she met someone else within a week she hated me.
Sigh... If I only knew then what I know now.
Re: Help me get a read on this... Lumpy: Guess she misses you more than she's letting on. Pretty sick if you ask me. Thank your lucky stars that you're free of her.
Re: Help me get a read on this... PennyLane: I agree. Sounds very immature. It was an attempt on her part to bring you down and get a 'rise' out of you.
Don't let it. It's actually quite sad on her part to stoop to that level. Your best to let it go and ignore it.
I don't care how sweet she 'can'be, no decent person would do something like that.
Re: Help me get a read on this... ih8BeinAlone: I agree about the malicious intent behind the letter. That being said, I was no angel either in this relationship. But, I've matured and realized my mistakes and have spent the last year analyzing my life and where we went wrong. I really just wish we could be friends.
Re: Help me get a read on this... ninja30: Here's the dealio, who friggen cares if she sent it? Maybe she is engaged, maybe she isnt. The bottom line is, you dont need her anymore. If I were you, I would stop trying to analyze this situation and just go on about your business.
I went through something very similar some months back only my ex got knocked up. She still kept doing things like talking about some girl I was seeing at work, giving her dirty looks, etc. as well as a few other very obvious things. After a couple days of experiencing this, I realized even more how much of a POS she really is. Here she is carrying some guys baby and still talking about me to co-workers, trying to find out what I have been up too, etc. The poor guy has no clue what he has gotten himself into. I feel bad for him and aside from her messing with my friends, I could really care less what she does or thinks. She's not coming back and I dont want her to. Try looking at things differently and accept this situation for what it really is, a bad situation and a waste of your thoughts and time. If she did do this on purpose, is that really the type of person you want to be with? The pure fact that she obviously holds no value to a comitted relationship and has the ability to walk one day and start fresh with someone new the next should make you wanna turn your nose up to her.
-trip
