emotional attachment VMQ: Do guys hate being attached? i mean, this new guy was all like "i don't really want to be attached". Does that mean he wants to do his own thing and call me when he wants some booty? (i think so)
but how do you know if you are emotionally or physically attached to somebody? I think that in my last relationship of 5 years, he was there, we did our own things, but as soon as i had a baby, he wasnt there, thus hurt me, and resulted in our breakup.
so my question is, how do you not get so attached to somebody. do i have to be selfish and not care about the other person's feelings of wanting to be near?
i dont know.
Re: emotional attachment damagedgoods: [quote"> Do guys hate being attached? i mean, this new guy was all like "i don't really want to be attached". Does that mean he wants to do his own thing and call me when he wants some booty? (i think so)
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That comment from him would lead me to believe that he would be happy to got out with you, fuck you but that he wants to be free to do that with as many girls as he can manage. If you are ok with that, then have at it.
Re: emotional attachment VMQ: well from my understanding when he said that, he just got out of a 10 year relationship, with his baby's mama. so i could see why he's not so in a hurry to jump on the bandwagon again. because i'm kinda not ready either. i think i just want to have some fun, but not be as promiscuous as some.
Re: emotional attachment damagedgoods: As long as you go into it with your eyes open, no problem.
Re: emotional attachment wizer_now: [quote author=VMQ link=topic=47573.msg569164#msg569164 date=1187285830"> Do guys hate being attached? [/quote">
No. If they did, they wouldn't get married. You're 22. Many guys your age aren't ready for commitment. They just want to mess around. That changes with age...usually.
[quote author=VMQ link=topic=47573.msg569164#msg569164 date=1187285830"> Does that mean he wants to do his own thing and call me when he wants some booty? (i think so) [/quote">
No doubt.
[quote author=VMQ link=topic=47573.msg569164#msg569164 date=1187285830"> but how do you know if you are emotionally or physically attached to somebody? [/quote">
If you have to ask, you aren't. If you look at his refrigerator, and there are at least 7 greeting cards from you, that have the word "love" somewhere on each one, then the odds are fairly high that you are.
[quote author=VMQ link=topic=47573.msg569164#msg569164 date=1187285830"> I think that in my last relationship of 5 years, he was there, we did our own things, but as soon as i had a baby, he wasnt there, thus hurt me, and resulted in our breakup. [/quote">
You had his baby, and he turned away from you, and you broke up? Nice. Nothing like running from responsibility. I hope he supports the child at least.
[quote author=VMQ link=topic=47573.msg569164#msg569164 date=1187285830"> so my question is, how do you not get so attached to somebody. [/quote">
You can't turn emotions on and off like a light switch. If you could, this forum wouldn't be here and I wouldn't be writing this. If you don't want to get attached, then stay home and watch tv.
