3 days so far LostinCali: 3 days without talking to my wife. She has tried to call me once a day and each time left a message about her being sick. I have not called her back. As much as I would like to talk to her, I know it wouldn't do a damn bit of good and I would just end up getting upset. I am starting to feel some inner peace and the weight is slowly lifting off my shoulders. If I talk to her, that will all come to an end. But yet, it is so hard not to talk to her. I am doing my best.
Re: 3 days so far yella: Keep hanging in there. It's tough, and probably one of the toughest things you will do, but you're doing a good job.
Re: 3 days so far Clarice: It is one of the toughest jobs. Good for you. Remind yourself daily that you matter and this is neccessary for your emotional health.
Re: 3 days so far WhatWillItTake: i applaud your strength, even in the midst of her being sick. that tugs at the heart strings even more.
hopefully she'll stop calling you soon. then again, that starts a whole other spectrum of emotions when that happens. at least for me it did.
Re: 3 days so far DarrenB: [quote author=LostinCali link=topic=47597.msg569863#msg569863 date=1187327544">
3 days without talking to my wife. She has tried to call me once a day and each time left a message about her being sick. I have not called her back. As much as I would like to talk to her, I know it wouldn't do a damn bit of good and I would just end up getting upset. I am starting to feel some inner peace and the weight is slowly lifting off my shoulders. If I talk to her, that will all come to an end. But yet, it is so hard not to talk to her. I am doing my best.
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Good man! Nice going you are doing it! It's tempting to answer the phone but don't! Now that you're establishing a no-contact/no drama policy with your wife and she realizes that you don't want to talk to her about personal things, this will make it a lot easier in the future to keep the short and necessary conversations you will have with her about the kids only.
