Well, looks like it may be over Rainking: Got back from counseling today, and it didn't go well at all. If you don't remember, my wife walked out on me about a month ago...said she didn't love me anymore. We've been separated since then, and we've seen each other a lot (without the feelings).
I've been struggling with my own feelings about this whole ordeal. I love my wife, and would like to have my family back as a whole unit, committed to each other like it was in the past. But, I haven't enjoyed the cold shoulder, uncaring person she has been. She drinks like a fish now, smokes like a chimney, cusses like a sailor, and is nothing like the person I married. The worst thing about it is she is doing nothing to work towards a reconciliation, even after saying she will be with me eventually.
I hurt, and I hurt bad. I just feel like giving her what she wants and just filing for divorce, so I can move on with my life. It makes me so dang angry to have to be in a situation that I would have to consider this, but at this point our relationship is non-existant and nothing on the horizon is giving me any hope.
I'm tired of hurting. I'm tired of floating in a boat without oars. I'm tired of being a doormat.
To file or not to file, that is the question :(
Re:Well, looks like it may be over Bug: If you file there are two outcomes. First it may wake her up and maybe she will actual work on things. Second if it does not you know that she does not really want to get back together. You can then proceed with the divorce to be able to get on with your life. Just because you file does not mean you have to go through with it. You have the entire waiting perioud (whatever it is where you are) to change your mind, at least then you will be a step down the road if she doesn't want to work it out. Just my two cents. Good Luck.
Re:Well, looks like it may be over Rainking: Thanks Bug!
I've taken that into consideration, and right now it seems to be where I am leaning. She knows how I feel about her, so I don't have the worry of her thinking I don't want to be with her....and you are right, it could be a wake up call. I'm not holding my breath on that one though.
Either way it looks as if it's where the road is leading us. It's just a d*mn shame.
Re:Well, looks like it may be over Bug: Yes, one of the worse decisions one has to make in life I think. I wish you luck, and happiness down the road.
Re:Well, looks like it may be over Rainking: We are spending a week apart with no contact (or at least it's supposed to be that way since we agreed on it in counseling)...so guess who I get a phone call from 10 minutes ago. Yep, she called me wondering if I was ok. I told her I was doing fine, and I didn't want a divorce, but would agree to one if she felt she needed one. She told me even if we got a divorce she'd still worry about me.
It doesn't change my outlook on things, but at least I know she has me on her mind and is thinking about stuff. I may wait this one out and see where it takes us. Can she go a week without me? We'll soon find out.
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