Re:I am no different jason_stl: Trust me, I have been played quite a few times from women I never expected were playing me. If you hit my hot buttons, you can play me like a fiddle to your heart's delight - that has been proven time and time again.
It isn't as though I am intending on using this woman for my own needs and then breaking her heart. I can't say that I have never done that, but I wouldn't do it here because I would have to see her in the office again. Like many men out there, I am just trying to position myself from colleague to semi-available. Which, of course, is why I said I was no different.
The problem is two-fold. First, I hate fishing off company docks. History has proven to me that nothing but bad outcomes transpire from those relationships. Second, transitioning myself from the state of a colleague to the state of a date in her mind, and my own, is rather daunting sometimes. I have a pretty good plan, but it takes time to develop. Yet, even as I write this, I know that instinctively I all ready planted the seed.
Now, I say I hate dating coworkers, but then again there are some women that you just have to throw out all the rules for. Potentially, she would be one of them. Not getting my hopes up - but my diabolical (or is it -licle?) mind is working overtime to not miss a beat.
Oh, and sorry for the generalization about all men being scum. For the most part it is true, but the current population of respectable male posters here I think is an anomoly rather than the norm.
I do have one question for you ladies though, specifically Shanna and Christy. If you were in that situation, what would you be looking for? I mean if eventually (like 2-3 weeks from breakup with bf) you picked up on a colleague hinting at a date, what would be the turn-offs - realizing that the prior week or two he had hinted but it was too subtle to notice?
Re:I am no different jason_stl: Oh and everything Beren said was right on the money.
Re:I am no different ChristyM: Aww sh*t, Beren -- do you think we don't know by now how Jason works? And he also knows me well enough to get what I say right back to him ...
That being said Jason, I will have to ponder your questions and give you an answer when I have more time. I don't think the ones that popped into my head right away are appropriate :) ...
Christy
Re:I am no different Shanna: I don't work....so no co-workers. WhenI did work it was with all women...not into women soooo....I can't answer that question.
I can say I would NEVER date one of the employees (parents own companies and I help out). My sister is and it causes nothing, but trouble. There is a reason most companies have a no dating within the company policy.
Re:I am no different Spectrum: I would have to agree with Christy's second post.
Your last response sound alot like, "Thanks, Beren, YEAH, that's what I meant, YEAH" ((taking notes for future reference)).
I've mentioned this before, but I'll say it again. Why is it that the first thing out of your proverbial mouth about women you're interested in ALWAYS has to do with how "hot" their bodies are?
Obviously we all have our standards, and having a high physical standard is absolutely your prerogative. But I think most people would classify the woman's personality as at least as important as her body type. For example, you could have posted, "There is this colleague of mine that I'm REALLY attracted to; she has this FANTASTIC body, and we have a blast chatting together." That would at least indicate some miniscule interest in a part of her above the shoulder-line.
Spectrum.
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