Re:How would you define an "Emotional Affair" devochic: Be wary. I lost my husband as well to a "friend". Emotional affairs are so much worse than a physical affair. You #%^ someone once, its easy to walk away. You build a relationship, that's harder to break up. Keep your eyes open and be careful. Like a lot of other ladies I let a lot slip by because I didn't want to be pycho wife. By the time I started saying stuff it was already too late.
Anemotional affair is when he shares everyday stuff with her and not you. When you are not welcome. An emotional affair is when he consistantly thinks about her, talks about her, calls her. An emotional affair is when you see him doing all the things he used to do to you, he does to her. But thats just my two cents.
Re:How would you define an "Emotional Affair" marfanoidus: I've said it before and I will say it again:
Men do not 'need' any sort of relationship with women other than their spouse. If they have to work together, thats one thing. If he even thinks about spending non-work related time with her - something bad is brewing.
There is no good that will come of it. Period. I speak from experience - my wife had an 'emotional affair' and of course it led to screwing around, shattered friendships, lots of angst, etc..
Think about it - gasoline and flames are better kept apart - there is only one thing that will occur if they react. People 'hanging out' with members of the opposite sex is BAD and only has the potential for producing unpleasant results. It does not have the potential to produce anything beneficial.
One more thing - I agree, from my own experience - watch him like a hawk, because he is probably lying to you about some things - but don't let him know you are watching him. It will not stop him, he will get angry for being accused (and thats what it is) for doing something wrong when you don't have any evidence, and he will probably just get more sneaky.
good luck to you, I really mean it,
walt
Re:How would you define an "Emotional Affair" sadinct: This whole thread hits me WAY too close to home... I agree with the posts of the others and can give examples of how my situation parallels their description.
I think Walt put it best... spending too much time with a member of the opposite sex is asking for trouble.. (and we didn't ask for it!!)
Thanks-
Doug
Re:How would you define an "Emotional Affair" milkdud: I'd have to agree with the posts above. My h had an emotional affair that turned into a physical one.
He worked with her, played on the same soccer team as she did. I knew we had problems, like normal marriages do, but I didn't know he was so unhappy.
He had issues with me, and instead of telling me he was unhappy, he turned to the co-worker.
I've been told that an emotional affair is much worse than a physical one, but to me, they're both damaging.
Re:How would you define an "Emotional Affair" seth: It was not until after my ex left me after 7 years that I discovered that she had had at least two emotional affairs on me. Okay, so she never actually had sex w/ this man and this other woman but still, it hurt very much.
I just found out that five years ago, when she told me she was going to visit a female coworker I had never met who mysteriously lived in our neighborhood (we commuted an hour and a half to work in another city), she actually went out to dinner w/ a guy AND his parents.
Not only that, she did it twice. The same female coworker. Looking back, there was a lot of that. She had a best female friend who'd always bust my balls--guess why? They were both bisexual.
I'm better off w/o that sh-t. I'm lonely but I'm happy. Things will get better for me. Anyway, the point is that your spouse is supposed to be your best friend.
It harkens back to elementary school when you ranked your friends: best friend, second best friend, etc.
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