I got a gift last night... supermom: My husband called to say goodnight to the kids. Five minutes after he hung up my son began crying. Yet again...My son was so sad. He's 5 and doesn't understand why this is all happening. He was questioning if santa would be able to find daddy at grandma and grandpa's house. He wanted to know why there is just 3 of us now and why daddy doesn't come home. I asked him if he would like to call his father and he said yes. So, they talked for a bit and but it really made no difference in his saddness. After I calmed him down and he fell alseep my husband calls to check if he was ok. Yes, I said he's sleeping. Ok here's the best part...
My husband was working when he called us and we were the last call he made well...He must have sat on his cell phone and it automatically called the last number, me! It was strange at first I didn't understand why he wasn't talking so I just listened. He had no clue the phone was on! I heard 45 minutes of his conversations with coworkers. I heard all the terrible names he called me, I got insight on who the ow might be. I sat there so quite listening to this stranger. It was wierd hearing him talk to badly about me. It hurt. But, 45 minutes later I had heard enough to realize that this wierd happening happened for a reason. It was a gift. To hear my husband for who he truly is, a stranger. As hard as it was to hear everything I was thankful. I guess I still believed in us. But, I heard it all from the horse's mouth. It will help me continue on with this process knowing he thinks I'm a f*** piece of s***.
Well, not the best gift to get but I needed it!
...He should have gotten a flip phone!
I got a gift last night... ChristyM: That's so weird that happened. But, I can understand what you're saying and how you feel. When I came across three binder-fuls of e-mail and im messages between my ex and his ow, it was the most painful stuff I ever had to read, yet proved to be the turning point in my healing.
Christy
Re:I got a gift last night... amess: Ugh, Supermom, I am so sorry you had to hear something so excruciating. Seems like he still has you in his system, though. I can't imagine anyone thinking he is a decent person if he talks about the mother of his children that way. I hope the ow knows what she's gotten into, and as much as it hurts, you have gotten away from such a vitriolic person. My H, who guards his laptop with his life, accidentally on purpose left it open, at home, while he went out. He was acting so terribly, and wouldn't talk, so I read his journal on it, and read what he thought of me. I was devastated, but like Chris says, it helped put everything in perspective. At least I wasn't in the dark anymore. I am almost sorry for the next woman who gets him, she doesn't know what she's in for. She'll need a lot of luck and stamina. Hugs, to you, I know how painful it is.
Re:I got a gift last night... marfanoidus: Same thing happened to me except she wasn't bad mouthing me, she and the OM were sweatin' up the sheets.
Oh yeah - LOTS of feelings about that. :-X
walt
Re:I got a gift last night... brokenman: OUCH!
That's all.
OUCH!
