How I am coping... christian: Monopalowa potato vodka. $9.99 + tax @ Trader Joes, by the liter. I am up to a liter a night, one day a week. My roomie thinks I am possessed. Or an alcoholic.
Truth is, I went from 6 beers a year to this in under 90 days. No passing out, no hangover, just waking up still drunk 10-12 hours later.
Not proud of this, just hoping to serve as a lesson to those that think alcohol will help. Some, it will. Most, it will only make things worse.
If you have a drinking or drug problem, seek help. PLEASE. The marriage you save might be your own. And if you don't save it, I will raise a glass for you. :'(
Re:How I am coping... LyssaB: I understand where you're coming from...I'm drinking on average of a bottle of wine a night...when the days are good, I don't drink, when they 're bad, I do
I'm working on finding other outlets, interests that can fill my time in better ways than drinking, but I know where you're coming from...it helps to drown out the pain of the divorce...I kills the pain, at least for now, but it always comes back, in the morning, when you realize that you're still going through a divorce and now you're hungover..,in a worse position than you were the previous night...I hear you
Re:How I am coping... JDorn: I know your pain guys, since I moved out and into my friends place I've seemingly been drinking and drinking and drinking some more trying to get away from it.
Like Lyssa said though, the pain and anger always return in the morning, and then they arrive with their sidekick, Mr. Hangover.
Of late I'm trying to back down, but for a while it was a bottle or two of wine a night, or going to the bar and drinking beer for hours, or bottles of Gilbey's Gin. Got to the point where it took me forever to get drunk, and hangover's were becoming non-existant. And then I'd drag myself out for a 5 mile run the next morning to try and keep myself balanced. Definately was/is a hard way to live.
Good luck to you all.
Re:How I am coping... caligirl: hey guys-
its close to 6 months now, and i hear what you all are feeling. i just have to say, (it was so hard for me to believe it at the time) but it does get better....i remember a few months back, i was in pretty bad shape, i started to drink ( i don't usaully drink) so my friends were a bit shocked...a good friend called me and just said, not accusingly, but basically said anything in excess is probably not going to be good for me, and she used examples like: is: drinking, over-eating, under-eating. It was a good wake up call, because i was clearly pretty depressed. She recommended a therapist, which I went to, and I am at such a different place now. I never thought at the time, I'd ever feel good again.
Keep your thoughts positive, as I will for all of you, it will happen....and you will emerge and evolve to a stronger, wiser individual...
-cali
