Should Marriage require work? barelybreathing: I always thought that a healthy marriage was one where both spouse "worked" at it. Each partner concerting an effort to make sure the relationship thrives.
I was reading an article the other day on Donald Trump, and he stated that marriage should be "easy" and "naturally" and that you shouldn't have to work on it.
His statement got me thinking....is this perhaps true? Not that Donald Trump is an authority on the subject, or is he? He is about to get married for a third time! He just was stating that one of his previous wives would always tell him that "you have to work on the marriage". And he disagreed completey on that.
Should it come easy? Or do you need to work at having a healthy, long lasting marriage? If you have to work at something so much, does it mean it is not suppose to be?
I always thought that compromise was needed in a marriage. I always felt that when one spouse was weak, the other one stepped up and was strong. I always thought that a marriage required "elbow grease" every now and then to keep it thriving.
I don't know now...maybe it shouldn't if you have to work at it so much. Maybe it should be easy......
What are you all's thoughts on this?
BB
Re:Should Marriage require work? Bug: I definitly disagree that it should be easy. Heck its work just to get along with somone you are with for such large amounts of time. Ive known quite a few people who have been married a long time and are happy; not one of them would tell you it was all peaches and cream. The bad comes with the good its part of life. Its how you work through the bad times together that makes a strong healthy relationship. I think its a get what you pay for kind of thing. The more work you put into learning how to communicate and care for each other the better your marriage will be. Romanticized? I don't think so, when you put two people together who grew up with two very different experiences they cannot just flow together with no effort at all. I think if your marriage never hits any snags there might be something wrong.
Just curious why did he divorce his first two, anyone know?
Re:Should Marriage require work? barelybreathing: I feel that way too...
No Trump did not say why his first two marriages failed. I am sure that he is a workaholic. Would have to be at his level. He did comment that his current fiance was very much ahppy taking care of him.....which could only mean, that she rotates around him, right?
Who knows. But I do know this, marriage should require work.....otherwise it becomes stagnate and that is when you become vulnerable.
BB
Re:Should Marriage require work? brokenman: I think that marriage is work. That being said, I have had several jobs in my life that I hated. Now I have a career that I love. It is "work" but it sure doesn't feel like it. That is how a good marriage should be too.
Re:Should Marriage require work? disavowed: About Donald Trump...... perhaps there were other unknown contributing factors to his 'divorces', but it's pretty obvious that each time he traded in for a newer model......just my .o2
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