Re:bored fast Spectrum: Ahh, Walt, the difference is subtle, but so important!
I've had many pleasant conversations with guys about cooking.... Especially guys who like to cook!
And I've also advertised to guys (much farther into the dating process, mind you) that I would like to cook for them.
However, this particular guy was a self-proclaimed non-cook. He said, "I don't like to cook, but I like to hang out and have a glass of wine with someone who is cooking" (for him, that is). It just left a bad taste in my mouth.
Call me oversensitive, but this guy was just rubbing me the wrong way on so many counts that it was hard to keep track. How did none of these show even a hint during the first two dates? It was dates three and four that really did him in. :P
Spectrum.
Re:bored fast jason_stl: You were caught up in the euphoria of the new person and the great qualities that he was letting you see. It is quite easy to both get duped and allow yourself to get duped in the beginning.
And why do guys become so clingy? Same reason that women do, I would imagine. It is a combination of self-esteem, their availability and previous relationships.
As always, just my off-the-wall take on things.
Re:bored fast Titanic: My advice is stop looking...
Go out on dates, meet people. Make friends, and new relationships. Don't go looking for anything. Get rid of all the expectations that are in your head. Once you do, that's about the time when you will get hit square in the head, and find what you think you were looking for.
The minute you start to set expectations about the "The person you want". You will start to find flaws in everyone that you date. Not to say, that you shouldn't have expectations. But they should be simple, nothing that can even remotly be compared to an application. If a woman handed me that, I would promptly hand it back to her, in pieces. Along with a rude gesture of some sort because I would honestly find that offensive.
"Doing noghting is very hard to do... You never know when your finished"
Ti~
Re:bored fast clambakesX: [quote author=Spectrum link=board=6;threadid=5071;start=0#msg39367 date=1098722690">
this guy was sitting there thinking about eating all the stuff I was going to cook for him..... <snip>practically saying, "Yummy, yummy!" and assuming I'm going to be cooking for him
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omg, Spectrum, this should be a scene in a movie. I'm sorry to take such perverse delight in what was an unpleasant situation for you, but the way you've described this is soooo preciously squicky.
Re:bored fast Shanna: I found a guy when I wasn't looking....here is the thing though. I never would have been looking for a guy like him at all. No one could have made me believe there was a guy out there that brought out the "good" side of me that I have had to hide for so long. He has so many qualities that I didn't know men could have. I wasn't looking for that...I wasn't looking at all.
I think you all think too much about it. Just go out and have fun. :P
