I think she checked out... computerperson: I'm sorry, I don't mean to say something bad about anyone, but I really think my stbx has officially lost it.
I finally said some things to her that I needed to say...no name calling, just telling her that I wasn't her whipping boy anymore and she couldn't treat me badly. That she stiffed me on a few of money things (didn't ask for the money thought) and I requested that she do a few things for me...to help with the changing of my medical insurance, so I don't have a gap in my health coverage. And she told me I was trying to control her and everyone else...she's telling me what she WANTS me to do, and I just request that she does a few things for me. Because I try to take care of my responsibilities, I try to control everyone. I don't see where that makes any sense...
Ever get the feeling that you really didn't know the person you married and a lot of what they told you about the past doesn't seem quite as believable?
I really hope she gets herself straightened out for herself and her two girls (prior marriage).
Re:I think she checked out... Kinney26: [quote author=computerperson link=board=20;threadid=5088;start=0#msg39420 date=1098749457">
Ever get the feeling that you really didn't know the person you married and a lot of what they told you about the past doesn't seem quite as believable?[/quote">
I was actually thinking about this right before I read your post. My stbx was always so against people who put friends and social life before family life. My BIL always did and she would talk about what an @sshole he was. Now she has decided to be even worse than him. At least he always came back to his family after partying with his friends. My stbx has decided that she wants to do whatever she wants, whenever she wants and doesn't want to answer to anyone. She told me when she left that it was time for her to think about herself. That is just something I never could have imagined coming from her. She always talked about how family was so important and now it doesn't matter at all. She says my son will adjust and he will be fine. I'm sorry, but I don't see a child being fine when he has to deal with this his whole life.
Re:I think she checked out... feelindown: That is what my wife said, "for a while it's all about me", "you have been so controling that I don't know who I am", "I need to find myself again", "I want to hang out with who I want (male)", etc. etc. you probably heard even better ones. What is going on with women when they hit 29ish? I give up!
Re:I think she checked out... computerperson: Mine hit 30 and "needed her space". As far as I can tell her space was being around anyone but me (I don't believe specifically male, but I could be wrong). For example, one day, she was in the basement on her computer with her 2 girls laughing and playing on the xbox with 2 of their friends like 2 feet from her...making some good noise. I walked downstairs, walked over to her, kissed her on the shoulder and walked back upstairs, never said one word. She got angry at me for crowding her or something like that...
I'd give my left arm for some woman to treat me like that...it's the little things, you know? I've always believed anyone can plan the big things...but you can't fake the little ones, at least not consistently.
All of that is in the past though, telling her what I thought finally gave me a chance to release my anger…I settle on MY house in 2 weeks and my big screen will be delivered 3 days later. I can think about myself too… ;)
