Re:I found him hiding in the bathroom. Bubba: Know one thing pal, you are far from alone. I'm 32, my stbx is 32, suddenly she was unhappy, and of course I caught her having an affair with a guy at work. In the beginning, back in Feb of this year, I didn't know how to handle it. For a long time I tried to put it back together, but it was not fixable. It took a bit, but I moved on. It is now almost November, almost 9 months since she started her affair. She now lives with the scumbag. As for me, well I finally got over the hurt, and pain. I have my own place now, and have been dating a nice woman for a month or so. So, though it sucks right now, and the outlook is bleak, you will come out of it. If not for your own sanity, but for your kids. The way I looked at it, and why I made sure I have 50% custody, is do I want my kid being brought up solely by someone so completely lacking in morals? No. So picked myself off the ground, dusted myself off, and started putting my life back together. Not really any other choice.
Cheers,
Bubba
Re:I found him hiding in the bathroom. newwoman2005: Alex,
Other than the having children part I am in just about the exact same situation. This is my first time to the message board and I am so glad I came. I have felt so alone and that no one could understand what I am going through; but that was selfish of me, many other people are experieceing exactly what I am.
I assure you that you and I and everyone else for that matter will get through this pain. I know what you mean about dying, I think about it so often and without children it could be so easy but that would be unfair to those that love me and want to see me continue to succeed in life. So I just cry and talk on teh phone more now then ever (and I have you know my husband was so controlling and hated me giving anyone else attenion so that phone was really regulated and now it's kind of funny he's gone and the world just starts calling to support me).
I have only been going through this alone for 4 days but I have been going through this for at least 6 months and the hardest part is I keep looking at the good things about him and my great support group reminds me of the bad to help offset it.
Ok, I am a babbler, maybe I should just post my story, but I am scared.
Good luck and email me <Michael - deleted> if you need to talk. I am pretty much awake 24/7 right now. I guess that's because it's so new.
Jennifer
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