Separation Maxwell: I know I won't get any sympathy for my situation. I really don't deserve, nor expect, nor want any sympathy. However I will ask my question.
First I'll give a little information on my situation. I posted more detail about my story earlier in April or May in the Tell your Story section. I think at that time some people were asking 'what if my wife decided she did not want to leave' and they were right. I cheated on my wife back in January. I finally told her it happened in April. I'm not in love with the other woman. I haven't even seen her since then. However, I do know I'm not interested in being married. So as expected, after I told her, she said she would divorce me and she would be moving out. We live in an apartment. She couldn't afford the rent here and didn't even have a job at the time. With the job she has now, she still cannot afford the rent here.
However, the job she has pays enough for her to get an apartment with a couple of roommates. She has talked to them and arrangements were made for her to move in with them. Here comes the twist. She changed her mind and decided she didn't really want to get a divorce. She had already postponed her move out date. She had originally planned to move out July 1. She postponed to July 5. Now that this date is coming upon us, she has postponed to some indefinite day in the future. It appears that she doesn't intend to go through with moving out.
Honestly, I don't think there is any legal way that I can get make her leave. But I want to ask the question any way. Is there any legal way I can make her to leave? Both of our names are on the lease, although I pay and have paid the rent every month. Here they require that all adults in the apartment have their names on the lease. Further, although I'm not familiar with marital residence laws here, she's been living here with me for the past year and a half, so she probably has established this as her residence. I haven't been able to find anything about those types of laws here in Virginia. If someone knows of a website with laws related to that, I'd be interested in seeing it.
I will probably have to wait until the lease runs out at the end of October (only 3 months away) and move myself then. I'm just trying to find out if there's a quicker way. I don't have the money to pay two rents until then.
Maxwell
Re: Separation nerak: Not to be harsh but you are the one who cheated and the one who doesn't want to be married so why should she move out? I was in your wife's position and had to insist that my husband move out. It is financially hard on him but that is the result of the choices he made.
Just my 2 cents from the other perspecitve
Re: Separation Maxwell: Perhaps she shouldn't have to move out. But, I don't think she deserves room and board from me either. I'll probably just have to move myself when the lease is up. She's an adult with a good head on her shoulders. I'm sure she'll figure out how to take care of herself.
