Re: Does Trust Die Forever? grober: bendeceived2003,
Man that sounds alot like my X. Luckily, I found out about how she was paying bills before it got really out of hand. She wanted to pay the bills to be in control.
When my credit cards and cell phone stopped working I found out what was going on. She said there just wasn't enough money to pay everything. I knew there was, just not enough to pay the bills and support her out-of control spending habits. I took over the finances and worked everything out.
Sorry, got off topic.
Re: Does Trust Die Forever? justmenow: I don't know if trust dies *forever*, but I know I will be a lot more aware of the warning signs and learn to trust my own instincts more. Turns out that when I suspected he was cheating, he was. My mistake was giving him the benefit of the doubt. It will be a while before I can trust someone again, and they will certainly have to earn it (like calling when they say they will, and showing up when they say they will and a few other minor "tests") Now, some of you guys might cringe at the mention of "tests", sorry about that, but I feel it is necessary to protect myself properly.
As far as would I ever trust my stbX ever again? Probably not 100%. He would have to go to some pretty extreme lengths to gain my trust again, things he's not willing to do yet (or ever), though I really wish he would. If it were me I would bend over backwards...
Sorry, I'm not making much sense today. Six days now until my divorce is final and I'm getting majorly cold feet. I do NOT want to do this, but right now it's the only road on the map that doesn't lead straight to H3LL. Good luck to everyone on the trust thing. It's big and it's complicated.
Re:Does Trust Die Forever? chuckie_luv: i can only hope that someday i can regain my x's trust. I lied to her about going to work when my buddies and i would actually go to the bar. amongst some others. we had had a problem with someone who said that she had been with me physically. I never laid a finger on another girl but i think she doesn't believe me now that i have betrayed her trust. we are still friends and I do hope to maybe have another chance to be with her someday. i know for that to happen though i need to regain her trust. I have been completely honest with her since we split, but sometimes it feels like it doesn't help. i am willing to do anything that she needs me to do to help get her trust back .She does tell me that she would really like to be able to trust me again someday. This has been the hardest thing I have ever gone through in my life, and it has been a great lesson in how much honesty really means. i know that i will be honest from here on out. what do think? is it possible to get her trust back?
Re:Does Trust Die Forever? OldSchool: Hi chucky_luv,
Have you or your wife tried counselling for yourselves. Trust is very hard to get back and it will take time to rebuild. With effort it is possible to regain something that is lost. You should post your story and thoughts so we know some more about your situation.
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