Re: Need Some Advice yeffer: barelybreathing,
I must say that I think we all have had times when friendships have been challenged and bonds have been broken. but I agree that you shouldn't be making any major decisions or life changes right now that you absolutely don't have too.
Tell your friend how you feel then explian that you wish to maitain this freindship if possible. If this friend is a good one he'll understand and give you want you need right now.
As for your question about what to say when people ask you about your s2bx I think that you say whatever you're comfortable talking about and don't worry about what others think. That was the hardest thing for me, to stop caring how people saw me and start consentrating on me.
I hope things work out for you. Stay strong
Yeff
Re: Need Some Advice down2basics: Well...I can tell you too from my own experience this:
I have a very close friend, Kellie. She and I became friends because our husbands were best friends. Well...after our divorce, she and I are still best friends. It is possible. Occasionally my x will come up in conversations and we'll lightly, very lightly discuss him then move on to something else. She loves to discuss swim suits - she's soo funny!
What I'm saying in all this rambling is - it is entirely possible to remain friends even though you have a horrid past connected somewhat to that friend. If they are truly your friend, they'll respect your feelings on the matter and be supportive of you regardless of your marital status! ;)
