Re:Advice to newcomers Shanna: I told my mother everything and asked her not to tell....she didn't (except to dad and her best friend- I knew that would happen). I also told her that if I decided to stay and try to work things out I expected everyone to support me in doing what was best for my children. For the big two weeks that we "tried" (he kept cheating) my parents kept their word and didn't bad mouth him and encouraged me. ONCE I was gone stones were thrown from both sides of the family (his and mine). I told his mother and she told his entire family.
Re:Advice to newcomers AmyMarie1972: On the lead up to my break up I talked to his mother. Big huge mistake. She promised me that everything that I said would go no further and I've known her for 13 years so was stupid enough to believe her. She repeated my every word to the ex and added some too. Have now found out that the two of them have been bad mouthing me to the rest of his family, but I wasn't the one who walked out on me and his 4 kids. I wasn't the one who set up house with some stupid bi*ch.
Still haven't spoken to them for over a month now and it really isn't bothering me like I thought it would. If they want to believe everything that comes out of his mouth that's really up to them.
I mean they knew me for 13 years, why they think I would suddenly grow horns, sprout a tail and run around with a fork I dont know but he said it so it must be true!!!
Sound advice though is do not try to discuss the problems with your stbx's family even if you think that you can trust them.
Re:Advice to newcomers lilbit: You guys are so right. My ex (hard to refer to him like that :( ) and I are supposedly trying to see if we want to be together again. I told my family and every friend I could find what we were going through and now anytime I mention his name they are down my throat. I wish in someways I had never said anything to anyone at all. I was really hoping someone would tell me the magic solution to our problems and that we could fix them. Now I feel like I have to decide on either him or them. And if it doesn't work out or if he does something stupid, I'm going to be alone.
