Re: inlaws webmouse: I am feeling an aching to call my mother-in-law. I have to get the ok from my stbx to do so. That is frustrating. He asked for the separation, and his family doesn't understand this whole situation. They have been very loving and supportive of me when I have seen them, and I would really like to thank them for that and let them know how I am doing. But, blood is thicker than water, and stbx says that they have been supportive of him through this (as they should be - he is their son), but I am afraid to walk away from them without a proper goodbye and thank you. STBX is already talking about the possibility of introducing a new girlfriend to them (it has only been since November). It is crushing to lose a family as well as a spouse. I fully sympathize.
Re: inlaws nerak: why do you need ok from stbx to call them?
Re: inlaws webmouse: We have a formal separation agreement that outlines certain behaviors and such. One of the stipulations of the agreement is that members of the other spouse's family may not be contacted without the other one knowing/permitting. We have a don't ask, don't tell agreement and he is afraid that his mother will tell me something he doesn't want me to know.
Re: inlaws yeffer: First of all it has to be said........ We didn't cause these break up of our marriages but now we must lose everything in order to move on with our lives. How is this fair? I just am having a very hard time with this because I love my in-laws they love me and that pr**** did this I didn't yet now I have to pay the ultimate price and give up those who I love very dearly.
I have been in this family for the last 12 years be have built a very close bond. When my s2bx and I moved to another state it was hard for me to see my own family and his was there all the time so I came to depend on them a gret deal. But from what I'm hearing is that, that doesn't matter. I just want to scream. None of this is fair I've lost the man that I thought I would grow old with, my best friend, My lover and my companion. Now I get to look forward to losing my family too.
I know blood is thicker then water and I don't wish to take his family from him but I just want to know that I wont lose them either.
Sorry I just needed to vent. Thanx for all the honesty I'm just having a bad day.
Yeff
Re: inlaws wakepner: I would have answered this thread completely different a few weeks ago but now I have to say it is not possible to remain friends. I thought it was but even in a not-so-messy divorce it has not happened. My inlaws and I were extremely close and were sadden by my S2BX decision to leave me with no warning. For months they called me, told me they loved me and I would always be a part of the family. All of a sudden, that is gone. Now my S2BX has asked that I never speak to them again. I do not know what happened but I am assuming there is either someone else or he told them some lies about me. Who knows!
This is one of the most painful things for me though. Not sure why it hurts so bad but I do not need any more rejection after my husband rejects me!
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