Re: Rebound relationships??? totallyconfused: Brian,
You are right. I have been caught up in feeling hurt and scared and not being me. BUT I WILL NOT let this divorce have that much power over me any longer. I'm done feeling sorry for myself and doubting everything I do because I made 1 bad decision (marrying stbex).
We are both adults and enjoy spending time together. That's all we need right now - to enjoy the moment.
TC
Re: Rebound relationships??? Carrie: Hi TC,
I'd have to say that my best relationship is one that started after I'd had a nasty breakup with a guy I was infatuated with. My friend also was having some personal problems about school and why he felt people didn't like him. He and I just got together for coffee, dinner, a walk to talk about what was bothering us. He thought that I was an OK person, and I thought he was an OK person - the things that had us down were really things that would work out for the better.
We didn't actually realize for a year or so that we had fallen in love with each other in a wonderfully mature way. So, yeah, just enjoy your time with your new friend - don't feel pressured to get more involved if you are scared about it. You definitely want to feel good about yourself and more confident about relationships before you get involved seriously. Have faith that if your friend is falling in love with you too that he'll stick around.
Me, I'm just kicking myself for not marrying my wonderful friend. My relationship with him is much healthier than the one I have with my husband. But that's another story entirely - about my lack of self-esteem and confidence.
-Carrie
Re: Rebound relationships??? rebeccal: My friend referred me here because I am newly divorced and confused about some feelings I'm having. I have only recently started dating in a physical sort of way (still no real sex yet) and I'm wondering if what I'm looking for is sex or love. I want to have sex without a serious relationship, but I am finding it difficult if not impossible to separate the two. HELP! :-/
Re: Rebound relationships??? totallyconfused: Rebecca, Did anyone ever respond to you? PM me if you'd like to talk.
