Friend troubles MARVINCHASER: I'm having big friend troubles. My 2 friends of 10 years are really distancing themselves from me. They gave me so much support after my husband first left, I don't know what I would've done without them. Well, it's been 5 mos now, and I get no phone calls, no invites anywhere, nothing. We had been having fun, it's not like all I did was cry around them. I know what everyone's going to say, it sounds like they're not very good friends. They really were though, and between my husband leaving me and this, I can't take all this rejecton! I feel like I can't go on. Sorry to be so dramatic, I have my family to lean on, but my husband and my best friends were so important to me, and now they're just gone from my life. I guess the bottom line is I loved my life and I didn't want it to change. I feel so lost right now, where am I supposed to go from here, any suggestions??? :'( :'(
Re: Friend troubles INCT: MC,
I have been there and I am still. My ex-wife left, and My friends were ok during the process. But my friends, most from childhood have distanced themselves. If it wasn't for a friend of mine and I working together I would be on the "island" alone.
truthfully, I don't have anything in common with them anymore, and I have chalked it up to the fact that my life has now taken a different path. I didn't want a divorce, I didn't choose it, I didn't choose to loose my friends in the process but both happened so I have to do the best I can.
Unfortunatley, like my ex-wife, my family, and my friends I have had to just say, screw em.. and try to do anything to make myself happy.. (aside from saying I want my wife, family and friends back)
Hang in there
INCT
Re: Friend troubles MARVINCHASER: INCT-
Thanks for the kind words. I know you know how this feels, it's like what the hell did I do to deserve this? Everything is just crashing around me right now. I know the quicker I accept that my life is going in a different path, the better I'll be, but I'm just not ready to let that life go yet. I liked it so much! It makes it even worse when I know my ex has tons of friends and goes out all the time.
Re: Friend troubles Old_Shoes: It's hard when you build friendships with people as a married person to keep those friendships as a divorced/separated person. Especially true with married couples that were your friends. My wife built friendships pretty much as a single person the last few years of our marriage. For her the transition was much easier. For me I almost have to start all over making friendships.
And yeah it hurts to think that your ex is out having a blast while you're home mourning the relationship. You've just got to get out and focus on your life not theirs.
Re: Friend troubles barelybreathing: Yup just the way it goes.
Thats okay, friends like that...well you know the saying.
New paths right INCT?
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