So when do they get sick of us? Marb_Man: I have noticed with me and some others that family members are very supportive...and they should be...But there seems to be a cut off time for most of them..They start to put the pressure on and I dont think it is right. Suttle hints really bother me. Most of the time you already are working on or taking care of the problems.
Re: So when do they get sick of us? DelinquentGurl: I guess I am a little confused as to what you mean. I dont think there is a certain time limit for how long you should be feeling pain, or anything like that, so if your family thinks you should be over it by now...that is for you to decide and not them.
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Re: So when do they get sick of us? barelybreathing: Friends and family mean well, but they just have no clue, well, unless they themselves have been through a divorce.
They think there is a time frame and proper progression of our emotions. I say, water off a duck's back IP. Only we ourselves can and will gage where we need to be and how long it takes us to get there. Its a lonely world I know but....so it goes.
Just another nuance in this divorce society we were involunteerily inducted into.
BB
Re: So when do they get sick of us? MARVINCHASER: This is just another hidden pitfall in this whole seperation thing. My best friends of 9 years are kind of distancing themselves from me lately. They were both really there for me when this first happened, but it's been 3 1/2 months now and I think they just don't know what to say to me now. Another tricky part to all this is both their husbands are good friends with my ex. I think they've been doing things with him. I can't blame them, I know they want to be with their husbands, this is a no win situation. I can't help but feeling that I've lost my husband and my best friends. :'(
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