Lunch with my son Old_Shoes: Went to lunch with my son today at his school. I didn't realize how many of his friends parents are divorced.
He was late for school because of his counseling appt. One of his friends asked him why he was late. He said he had an appt to help keep his mom and dad from getting divorced.
His friend replied that his mom and dad are getting divorced and his dad has a girfriend and his mom has a boyfriend. This summer his mom's boyfriend is moving in with his kids.
Too little time and too many issues from these little guys. I had no idea what to say.
Re: Lunch with my son barelybreathing: It is all so sobering.
It is just not suppose to be this way.
:'(
Re: Lunch with my son Stephanie04: Ouch, this breaks my heart. :'(
Re: Lunch with my son down2basics: Please forgive me for replying so late - I am new to this board and am truly learning a lot and enjoying reading all the messages that these truly intelligent members have to offer....
As for your son, mine is dealing with the same thing. However, I've found that while this is truly a sad state of affairs our kids are living in, they can turn it into a positive thing.
My son is learning how to cope with my divorce from his friends. Now...this isn't a rule by any stretch, just an example of one little light. His friends brush off the pain, in a matter of speaking. They too, are getting busy to fill the void where the pain resides. My son has taken up baseball and this fall plans to play football. He was never able to do that when I was married...My daughter too, plans to go into cheerleading for the first time this fall...they both seem to be finding their niche where one never existed for them before. All in all - I believe it's probably a really positive thing for them as well as me. Believe me, I've beaten myself up plenty of times over what the divorce has done to them. However, at the time, and I do still believe, I think it was the absolute best course of action - for everyone involved....
Chin up - Our children are far stronger than we allow them to be. :)
Re: Lunch with my son justmenow: I agree - kids are amazingly resilient, but they too will have their ups and downs. We just have to be around to hold them up during their downs and allow them to grieve too (within the boundaries of discipline).
My oldest daughter (13) told me she was actually looking forward to me dating because she wanted to see me happy like she feels when she sees the boy she likes at school. She said "you still remember how to do that, right?" What a smart @$$.
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