Re: Lunch with my son down2basics: I agree with justmenow! My son and daughter both like the idea of me finding someone to make me happy. They remember how nasty things were when I lived with my x - their daddy...Whew! I think that sometimes my son was more relieved than I was that I left! Can you believe it!?
I've been dating someone for about a year now - casually mind you - and the few times that my kids have had contact with him...it's been very pleasant. He plays baseball with my son and reads tons of books to my daughter. It's all good!
Re:Lunch with my son Old_Shoes: In an odd twist of events my ex wife is now dating my son's friend's dad from the original post. Jason told his friend my mommy is dating your dad.
My daughter is asking if he's mommy's boyfriend. She doesn't think so because they are just dating. She says if they're just dating it doesn't involve kissing.
The ex gave me the kids on her weekend so she could go away with this guy. Fortunately, the kids don't know that.
Just when I figured I was managing my issues something different comes up. The kids are seeing a counselor and that probably helps.
I'm not sure how to handle it with them. So far I just listen to what they have to say and reassure them that things won't change between us. I defer questions about their mom's relationship to their mom. Any suggestions?
Re:Lunch with my son NotADoormat: I think you're handling it just right. She should have to answer for her actions, not you. As long as you are always honest with them, I think you're doing the right thing. That's a rough situation - sounds like she maybe needs to take the kids needs into consideration a little more before her own. Geez, makes me wonder where her head is?
Don't get down on yourself. Seems to me like you've got things handled the best way you can. :)
