Re:Split after 11 years marfanoidus: I didn't know my previous post made it up.
Re:Split after 11 years hardened_heart1970: hi. i have a question for you. my wife walked out on me, and she seems to be unaffected by it emotionally. was/is it that way for you? is it hard, to walk away knowing that she loves you dearly, and you are hurting her? i just want to know what goes through the mind of the leaver? do you care what she feels, or do you know that over time she will get over it?
as for what you have done, it must be devastating for her, and really bad for her, BUT you probably followed your heart. but why did it take 11 years, and why did you have kids with her, if you knew she wasnt the one for you. im 33, my stbxw is 27 we have been married since july 15, 1995 and have been dating her since early 93. i have wanted, but never done alot that most men want to do. spring break, massive partying, never even went to my best friends bachelor party, because i had respect for her. but if i never loved her, i would never want to have kids with her. and the ironic thing here is, we got back together for a short time a couple months ago, and i asked her to give me a boy... and she cried and said yes.. and now im alone, and crying..... sorry i got off subject. today is not gonna be good for me................... sorry.. good luck, follow your heart.... i cant........
Re:Split after 11 years Sugar Rose: I too am not sure the connection has been there the past 10 years for my husband. I knew i loved him good family values (we both had that in common) I have been with him for 15 years so i ask myself the same questions why now....after all these years and two childeren. i too felt that maybe over time i could learn to love him more. that loving him and not being in love was enough. My husband was not the nicest guy the past 10 years and didn't get better so that didn't help, but either way i am still sitting here and not leaving as of yet for the same reason (the children) let me know how it goes. I think the kids deserve to see two people in love. As for the other questions i am going to be the leaver and the reason i haven't left is because i do care about his feelings i hate what i am going to do to him, no matter all the pain he has caused me. He is the father of my kids and i don't like hurting their dad. I think leaving hurts but staying in a loveless marriage hurts too. I have been with someone for 10 years but lonely most of them. I think if you don't love her anymore you owe it to her to be honest but i agree not to string her along..... let her find someone that will love her for real... good luck
Re:Split after 11 years amess: It seems like you did ask her to marry you, just that she planned the wedding to take place 3 weeks prior to your set date. Does she act this way, keep you off guard a lot? I do think that, yes, you were married way too young, and now the midlife crisis ( it's now or never) has hit you. Only you must make the decision whether this is a good step for you. This post tears at me, but I'm trying to be nice, so I wish you good luck.
Re:Split after 11 years milkdud: Your post really hit a nerve with me. >:(
If you knew in the back of your mind that you didn't want to spend the rest of your life with her, why did you marry in the first place? Why have another child? ???
Should told her up front. Now you're not only changing your life but those of your kids and your wife.
I have no sympathy for you. I feel for your wife and kids.
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