Little one Stephanie04: I have a 2 year old boy for whom I have been the primary caretaker. For the last two months, H was going out almost every night until 2 or 3 am, sleeping in late, working late, and watching hours of sports. Now that we're getting divorced, he says that he wants the baby 50% of the time. I think he honestly thinks that is what is best for our child...which I don't understand. He doesn't even get home from work until 8 or 9 pm, so he would want to have a babysitter wait at home with the baby for him. That's absurd!
I don't think that he would get the 50% time if this went to court, but I don't want to drag this out. I'd like for us to be able to agree on something reasonable...but how do you reason with someone like this? Any suggestions?
Re: Little one luvbai: Can he pick your son up at your place? At 8 or 9? or whatever?
Re: Little one Stephanie04: The baby is already asleep by 7:30 or 8:00. What would be the point for him to take him just while he is sleeping?
Re: Little one luvbai: All I'm saying is that if you want to find a way for this to work your are going to have to be willing to make concessions as well. So what, the baby is asleep at 8, if he wants him when he's sleeping what do you care? What he does in his time shouldn't matter as long as its not destructive. I don't think its unreasonable to share custody, even 50%. But you really need to see what is in the best interest of your son, not what you want or what the stbx wants. The children suffer so much in this whole process, shouldn't you do everything you can to make it better & easier on them? Even if that means spending time with the stbx? I do!
I'm sorry if this sounds harsh or short, but parents who try & use thier children in a leverage against the other parent really burn my butt. Your ex would get a big soap box lecture from me! What's he thinking?
Re: Little one Marb_Man: He should take the little one now on his days off
As far as his job goes...Screw his job he needs to find something more that fits his life..the child is more important..time to start putting out resumes
Good luck
