a different spin on this down south xhubbie: "My friend has said she would help with taking care of Mr. M and I have other friends down there that could be called upon to assist with the needs of a 9 year old."
#1 Are you sure that you're ready for a friend? Only you can answer that. Are you over the ex enough to be able to offer something in exchange.
#2 Is your son ready for this "friend"? I know your ex has somebody else, but 2 wrongs don't make a right.
Make sure that both of you are ready not only for this move, but also for the new friend.
Here is some helpful advice that one of those self help gurus teaches and it's good advice.
When you are making a change, make sure that you are not just running away from something. Make sure that what you are running toward is really a better opportunity.
Some people just want to run away. I know I've done that in the past and I know that I'm not alone.
On the other hand, a new move might be just what the doctor ordered for you.
You really need to sit down and talk with your son about it. Find out his concerns about the situation. For example, how often does he see his mom right now? How often will he see her when you move away?
Re:Move to Calgary? 2brix: Thank you for your responses. DSXH you would laugh if you were in the councilors room with me last night. He must of read your response because he just about repeated it word for word. The evening I spent talking to my councilor was probably the best thing I could have done. He and I were able to wrestle this question down and I believe I will hold out in Edmonton for the time being. No my friend is not a romantic interest in my life and it was agreed that she would probably be a good preasure valve if I started to slip (when the s2bx left me I had a breakdown) but Mr. M should not be moved around until he has had time to get used to the idea of mom and dad not living together.
