Re:MY LIFE JUST FELL APART TONIGHT!!! favoriteangel2003: I LOVE ALL OF YOU GUYS!!! I really do! You don't know how bad I needed to see this support. You are great and I promise to reply to each one tomorrow...I am too exhausted today(from being up all night). I appreciate you guys so much!
THANK YOU!!!! :)
Re:MY LIFE JUST FELL APART TONIGHT!!! lifechange: F.A. So sorry for you :( You don't deserve this behavior and you have every right to stand up for yourself. I am thinking of you and the kids and sending you all big hugs!!!!!
Let me know if you need to chat!
lc
Re:MY LIFE JUST FELL APART TONIGHT!!! richmds: FA2003, right now just write down what you think you need to do.
Dont do anything immediately you are still shaken. I know how it feels and I did a lot of things in a daze and in shock when my situation occurred.
You may or may not want to work it out but take some time to figure it out without his influence, you need to know what you need right now. Be with close family or friends if you have any for emotional support.
Take a breath and we will all be here when you need to talk some more.
Re:MY LIFE JUST FELL APART TONIGHT!!! texaslove: I feel for you. I am just a year out from having left my now XH and looking back, the support I had and the mistakes I could have made while I was in the "daze"...make a list, look it over at different times of the day to ensure it is right, and my saving grace, was a referral of an attorney from a friend who knew a friend who went through what I was heading for...my attorney was fantastic..thank god!
Good luck and you will be in my prayers for strength!!!
Re:MY LIFE JUST FELL APART TONIGHT!!! favoriteangel2003: Whatef, RecoveringDE, ChristyM, Shanna, Timetobefree, dj, lc, richmds and texaslove!!! :) I will definately take everything you said in and let it really sink in...all of it. I will definately make a list tonight. I need to. I need to find a good lawyer first here in Minnesota so if anyone knows of one I would be forever thankful! I don't know of anyone close to me that has gone through a divorce yet and I will be the first and hopefully only one in my large family...I am not proud of that but they all seen it coming...sadly. I do have a great family who is completely supporting me through this...especially my wonderful, awesome and loving mother who sadly went through the same exact thing at almost the same exact age except she had 6 small children and NO support from my father who wiped us clean when he left. She is my true hero so I know I can do it. I just hate the situation I am in because I always told myself that I would be da$%^@ to get myself in that situation. Well here I sit...but I have learned...that is what is important. My mom always said..."You always have to learn the hard way and it breaks my heart..." She is right...it has broken mine also.
I need to take time for myself and I told my soon to be ex that after the very short and painful conversation with him. He denied everything!!! Played stupid even....I am glad I am almost through with this draining relationship! :) My heart is already feeling a little lighter...sore....but a lighter. :-[ I told him he needs to take a long hard look at the person he truly is ....he needs to be honest with himself and me. He not only lied to be for so many years but he betrayed me and my (our) children. I told him that I am ready to move forward in an honest life because I have been living a lie for too long now and to many precious years have slipped by....I am still young enough to have everything I have ever wanted...we all are and deserve it!!! I have a huge list of goals and I am scared BUT excited to jump on in and live life again...Honestly... :-[
Thank you again...I treasure all the information you have given !!! YOU GUYS ROCK!!! :D
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