Re:is it ok to be in denial lee: Thank you all for your input, this site makes me feel less insane!
I think for where i am right now, I dont want to know. And maybe that's ok. MAybe I shouln't panic about it.
DOK-i think you are right.My mom once told me a marriage isn’t 50-50. Each person has to give 100%. And of course my mom knows best! While i dont have a lot of advice for you-I come from a different perspective. As a girl who always wanted a dad to love her unconditionally. My advice is, if you love your daughter, she belongs to you. I think a fathers love can transcend biology. And for the both of you & your daughter maybe thats all you need. But like the theme seems to be in this thread, if its going to make you crazy, then maybe you need to find out.
I think for now, Im ok without knowing. I hope i can shake the feeling of rejection without knowing truely why i was rejected.
I just feel like im on an emotional rollercoater. Im angry ten seconds later im crying, 10 sec later i think im better off, 10 sec later im scared & lonely. Maybe its kind of like a separation menopause im going through!
Thank you all for remiding me im not alone!
Re:is it ok to be in denial DOK: Thanks for your advice too - I think for my daughter's sake, especially, it's better for me just to keep all doubt about that issue in some dark corner of my brain.
Separation menopause, LOL! Been there, done that.
I used to stare at my computer screen for three hour stretches, paralized with anger-sadness-denial-hopelessness.
That eventually fades away.........but it seems like a veritable eternity.
Hugs and best of luck.
P.S. WTF is it with "walk-away-spouses"? During the holidays? Of all times. Soulless they are!
Re:is it ok to be in denial richmds: Denial doesnt last long for me. I am impatient.
When I suspected infidelity, and saw signs I was in denial for about 15 minutes.
And I had to get to the bottom of it, I tend to imagine everything under the sun and drives me nuts.
Big question I had to ask myself is if I find out and its true what will happen next, most likely breakup? But if you suspect it and dont find out how will you act within the relationship, detached, wondering, angry.
