Re:Question for ya all bloke: Kin
Given my previous posts I don't think it'll be that surprising to find that I come out on the romantic love-is-better-than-that side of the debate.
I totally believe in love being more than your heart beating a bit fast and your underwear getting fidgety. And much as we all might sometimes wish to, I don't think you can switch it on and off. I believe in pursuing love, true love, married love, we-chose-to-have-children-together love. Sometimes my wife makes me incredibly cross - but I still love her. If I didn't believe that then I would have to believe my wife was justified in being a bit bored now that we're going through one of those tough times.
But we live in a disposable society, a selfish culture. Every bit of marketing around us says "if it's not exciting and new throw it away and get a new one" political correctness has become all about "my" rights, not about what is right. Which is easier? - to stay and work at something that offers no short-term reward but the possibility of long-term reward, or to just wander off and have some shallow comfort sex with a stranger. A part of me says I don't understand why people want to settle for so little, and another part thinks I am an ancient throwback to a bygone era and I should go out and get plenty and not care about anyone else.
For what it's worth, the reason I, an English man, am posting on an American site is that you guys still show signs of a beating heart - all the English divorce support sites I found were just interested in how much money you could screw out of your ex.
Sorry, feeling a bit disillusioned wtih life in the 21st century tonight. But as long as WE continue to fight for how things should be rather than just accepting how they are, surely there is hope? otherwise I fear for my children's future.
P.
Re:Question for ya all MadorSad: Drown
You said it man Hip Hip Huray old man. You are oldschool and that is great in my book GOOD ON YOU MAN
Damn right
MoS
Re:Question for ya all feelindown: Drowning,
Your a good man! I enjoyed your post! You are welcome in USA anytime! I thought UK would be different, but the whole world is going the way you mentioned. "Throw it Away, get a NEW one." It is sad.
Re:Question for ya all betteroffalso: Hey Kin,
Read my post "Am I just old fashioned"! :)
BOA
Re:Question for ya all Discarded: The philosophy of throw it away and get a new one is inudated in our society. Look at television and it's view of marriage. In almost any show anymore it has cheating, hiding information from spouses or significant others, and all kinds of other things that we and our children watch everyday. There are no shows that have devoted family life and show the good of having a good decent father, mother and all the brothers and sisters are actually full brothers and sisters. (I'm not trying to suggest or inflame feeling with this last statement, but it's the way it's portrayed anymore)
I am from a bygone age and I don't watch TV anymore because of the perpetual crap portrayed anymore on it. I feel it's so sad how relationships, marriage, and people in general are portrayed. So many people grow up in broken homes and alot of it I believe alot of it is due to the constant barrage of crap we are dealt everyday making it seem O.K. and normal.
We live in a disposable world, if it breaks, doesn't work as it should, get tired of it, it just gets boring, or takes some amount of work it's time to get a new one whether its a car, tools, appliance, or a spouse.
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