Re: Contacting children lisaAnn: way to go...daddy of the year..... ;)
Re: Contacting children Marb_Man: Does daddy of the year come with a crown? Well you know you will have to be mommy of the year. You pat my back I'll pat yours ;)
Re: Contacting children barelybreathing: Reading these posts made me think about the night before I was to board the plane to the place of no return (married life), he sat there talking about how important it was to him to walk across the stage and get his awards for being such a "player" at work. He needed that recognition.
And as I packed my stuff into three suitcases crying my heart out listening to him, all I could think if in my head was over and over was, "too bad it won't be an award for daddy of the year."
Ahhh, the choices people can make in life. IP, we made the right one. Our kids. My every breathe is for my child. If I had to be separated from her and someone would have to hog tie me to do it, I would call her every single day. I would not want to miss one day not talking to her and not hearing her precious little sweet voice. Not one single day IP.
Hey, IP's s2bx, we know you read these posts, please do not let your life pass you by where you will have regrets not being more involved in your children's life. We only get one shot at this, and we have very little room for mistakes and regrets. They are only their ages once and don't miss one single moment.
Re: Contacting children DaisyGarden: My s2bx is in the army (choose to reenlist at the same time he wanted a divorce --last summer). I BEGGED him to come home, even to divorce me...but please COME HOME and be a part of our daughters life. He refused. He sometimes goes months without calling. She's only 2 and I know she's difficult to understand on the phone, so I'm usually on another line translating. When he does call (lately) we talk about the war, or our taxes....he doesn't bring her up. I emailed him again about our daughter being so sick...he never emailed me back.
Or brought her up the next time we spoke. At Christmas he came home for about 11 days and never stopped over to see her once. Well, our neighbor told us he was over when we weren't there, but other then that.....nothing. N0 effort at all. I plan on using all this against him in court.
But, this is a guy who is one of 10 kids. He is the 2nd oldest and one of the things that touched me so much when I met him was how loving and 'fatherly' he was towards his brothers & sisters. Of course he is 22 years old and I think being a father wasn't much at all like playing father, so that was it. I'm heartbroken for my little girl...but I can't force him to care.
Re: Contacting children luvbai: I'm in a not so unique position, as I was a child of divorced parents & now I'm the parent. My father never called when I was a child. Then he started to resent that every time we called him if was to ask for something (to see him ususally, God forbid). I must say my mother was not all that suportive & did things that were not condusive to our relationship with our father.
My X also had a son that lived with his mom. He never called, only when it was time for him to see him. We would argue alot about this. He would say "if he wants to talk to me he'll call." I'd say "he's a child, be the grown up & call if you want to talk to him." My stepson doesn't feel that he sould have to ask his mom if he can make a long distance call to call his dad. He has said to me that he doesn't think the X wants to talk to him.
This is what I have to say to all you stbx's & X's that aren't living with your children!
YOUR SUPOSED TO BE THE ADULT, PICK UP THE PHONE & CALL! THIS ISN'T MIDDLE SCHOOL! WE'RE NOT KEEPING SCORE AS TO WHO CALLED WHO! JUST F*ING CALL, THEY ARE YOUR CHILDREN FOR GOD'S SAKE! THEY LOVE YOU!
