Re:What is a Rebound? scrdbyelmo: thank you walt
Re:What is a Rebound? in_search_of: Alright, I kinda like jason's bouncing ball analysis. I think that the rebound is what comes after that split second at the very bottom where the ball has to be bent out of shape in order to bounce. That moment is the process that we are all in previous to the rebound. The smashed down, bent out of shape, fundamentally disfigured point. The rebound is that upswing afterwards. when you are returning to your original shape, rounding yourself out so to say.
Rebounds are when you are spending your time learning about you, and feeling better about yourself. As much as people talk about the rebound in a negative way, there is something (and in my opinion many things, possibly most things) that come from a rebound that are amazing, good for you, and healthy as part of the healing process. The problem in rebounds comes when you get all these positive things at the detriment of someone else.
Rebounds allow you to feel loved and wanted and needed after a highly emotionally charged breakup. They teach you that all people in your dating circle are not bad, and won't hurt you, remind your the things that you liked of relationships. All those things. We are all going to have a rebound, I have had a rebound (and in my case, more than one) and I have been the rebound (again, more than once). I don't fault the people who I was the rebound for, and I adore some of the people that I used in the process of rebounding.
Alright, its been a weird day, and in 12 hours, and some sinus medication, I may have to come back and edit this sucker to make it make sense!
Re:What is a Rebound? Dianne: Ok so maybe someone can help me, am I in a rebound relationship? I am 31 and have been seperated now for 6 months. I moved on my own and had every intention if not dating anyone . A week after I moved out I met someone 8 years younger than I. I had told him I was not wanting anything serious. But it did not turn out that way . Well we have been dating for 6 months. All was pretty good , he had been out of work for a few months and he moved in with me, and I helped him out. He is now working and has paid back some of what he borrowed from me. he has enough of his own emotional baggage. But none the less I tried to do what I could for him. His moods are like a roller coaster. And it is draining emotionally. There are other things that have happend but to long to let out now. I do love him, he says the same to me. I also have been feeling awful since the seperation about how my ex feels. I feel like a failure to my family and to myself. I don't know what to do. There is so many emotions in my head. I can't sort them all out. I am not in love with my ex, but I still care about him. There would be no chance I would want to patch things up, as this is the 2nd and last time we split up. But I do love my new guy alot, and although he says he does, I feel as if he is going through the motions. But I compare him to my ex all the time (bad sign I know) and I wish he would treat me as if I was first on his mind. But I know I am not. But I can't break free, I feel as if I am at his mercy. Sounds terrible doesn't it? What is wrong with me ?
Re:What is a Rebound? jason_stl: Is there even ink to be dried on the divorce papers yet, Dianne?
Re:What is a Rebound? Suddenly Single: People always mention rebounds as the first person you date after a break up...but can there be a few rebounds? Is there such a thing as more than 1?
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