I didn't want a Thank You brokenman: Alright, I have kept contact with my ex to a minimum. I don't care what she says and I don't care what she does. It would hurt too much if I did. So, I don't call her - EVER. That is all fine and good. I expect to hear from her on occasion because she calls to arrange her visitation. That is tolerable.
However, last night she calls because she is trading in her old car for a new one. Turns out my name is on the title and previous loan. So I have to sign all the paperwork to let the transaction proceed. This call was at 8 pm. She needs me to travel 30 minutes to get to the paperwork. Alright. I really didn't want to see her, but I can only benefit from NOT having her vehicle in my name. So I agreed. Mind you, I wouldn't say no just to be an as.s So hanging up, I get my first, "Thank you".
So I am dreading the whole situation. I just want to get in and out. Luckily, I get there and she is nowhere around. I sign all the papers at the business desk. She approaches just as I am finishing. Mind you, I don't like looking at her. I glanced at her and it was just as annoying as I remember it. Then I get my second, and this time long-winded, "Thank you so much for doing this". Puke-puke, gag-gag. I don't need to hear that. I didn't do it FOR her. I quickly, and silently walked out of there after hugging and kissing my daughter goodnight (she spent the night over there last night). Just as well, the OM was there too, although, I didn't see him at all.
So this morning my daughter comes home and we get ready for work and school. She tells me that her mother really, really, really appreciated me signing the papers. I didn't say anything as it was just a passing comment but UGH! As much as I don't like having anything to do with that cheating liar, I really don't need her thanking me. Sure, I should just let it go, but I get the sense that she is going to be thanking me for the next two weeks. It is just dammed annoying.
Re:I didn't want a Thank You dj: My stbx does this as well. What's the deal?
First of all, the only reason I do half of what I do is because it will benefit me. Sure, she gets benefits too but I'm protecting my own a$$. Second, it isn't like I'm jumping into a burning building to save her, I'm signing my name on some papers...don't get carried away.
Anyway, just wanted you to know that you aren't alone in this and if you figure it out, let me know too!
Re:I didn't want a Thank You OldSchool: Ahhh, this brings back memories. That last time I spoke with my ex was 5 months after our divorce and I called her mom to get my name off her car. Well, I gave her the car w/ no payments left so she profited and thanked me for my help too. It was just disgusting to hear her being nice to me. I felt like I was talking to a representative from my credit card company right after I made a huge payment. Fake sounding b**** !
Re:I didn't want a Thank You Spectrum: Well, T, your ex has found a way to annoy the heck out of you such that you are completely unable to reasonably tell her to bugger off.
And for added fun, she can safely enlist your daughter to help!
It's actually a pretty clever move, if you think about it!
Spectrum.
Re:I didn't want a Thank You Shanna: I got a phone call yest asking me to sign papers so my STBX husband can trade in our Chevy Tracker for a TrailBlazer (must need a bigger car now since he doesn't have the kids anymore - nerrr). I was thrilled to get the call....one less finacial burden on my credit.
Luckily they are just Fed-Exing the paperwork.
"Mind you, I don't like looking at her. I glanced at her and it was just as annoying as I remember it."-not laughing at you, but this totally cracked me up. I know that feeling it was just funny to hear it said like that.
Hugs,
Shanna
