Re:Cheaters are insecure, irresponsible, ignorant ignoramuses OldSchool: Cheaters suck! It's like living with a constant virus. All they do is drag you down and try to make you feel as miserable as they do. I can't believe the life I led with my ex... she sucked me dry emotionally, physically, and financially towards the end of our relationship. Even when we were separated and I started to file the papers, she was still lying to me, her parents. She had no friends anymore... so she was only hurting the ones that had loved her the most.
It still pains me, to think about how self-destructive a life she led and possibly still leads. God, I loved this person and put my complete trust into her and I didn't see the signs until it after the fact. If I'd seen those same signs now, there's no way I would've dated her that long.
I'm happy for being out of the relationship, but I feel so stupid for choosing her out of all the possible great women out there to marry.
Re:Cheaters are insecure, irresponsible, ignorant ignoramuses Shanna: I didn't read everyone's posts....so I may be repeating or just sound dumb (it happens).
I talked to my Cheating STBXH for a long time about this.
My Q-so what were you thinking when you decided to cheat?
His A-I thought she and i could be together for the rest of the time her hesband was away and then we would cut it out and would just be friends (we hung out as couples).
My Q-you didn't think I Would find out?
His A- never even considered that.
My Q-Did you consider the fact that you were risking your chance at helping to raise your kids?
His A- no I didn't think that far ahead.
My Q-Did you not care if you hurt me.
His A-I never thought you would know. So I never considered your feelings.
So from my understanding they actually dont' think past "this feels good" to "wow this is going to kill my SO and could make me loose my family.
WELCOME TO CHEATERS WORLD!!!
Re:Cheaters are insecure, irresponsible, ignorant ignoramuses barelybreathing: You cannot take it personally.
Cheaters are all about themselves. They are selfish and self-absorbed.
I am beginning to think that all cheaters suffer from some kind of personality disorder, bi-polar, narcisissitic, histrionic or manic depressive. How could they not?
They lie, cheat and decieve. Then, they get all angry at us, like we made them do it. They belittle us like we are pond scum. We didn't lie and deceive.
Cheaters are sick people. SICK SOULS!
I hate what he did, but mostly, I feel sorry for his messed up thinking and his messed up life.
I could never cause my family this kind of shame. I would die first. And if I did, by some rare freak weak moment, I would scramble to make it all up to everyone.
I KNOW why this is in the top ten list on God's commandments. There is a REASON why its there.
God bless all of us who have had to deal with this issue. I struggle with it daily.....even after all this time.
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Re:Cheaters are insecure, irresponsible, ignorant ignoramuses down south xhubbie: [quote author=barelybreathing link=board=20;threadid=5582;start=0#msg43484 date=1100973751">
You cannot take it personally.
Cheaters are all about themselves. They are selfish and self-absorbed.
I am beginning to think that all cheaters suffer from some kind of personality disorder, bi-polar, narcisissitic, histrionic or manic depressive. How could they not?
They lie, cheat and decieve. Then, they get all angry at us, like we made them do it. They belittle us like we are pond scum. We didn't lie and deceive.
Cheaters are sick people. SICK SOULS!
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Whenever I asked my friends and family, why or how could she do all these deceptive things? They all said that she was "sick". With every passing day, I see that they are right. Some even told me that she would or could neglect my son as she did last Friday night (see my latest thread here on the vent). I never believed she could be so cold toward me and not care whether I was living or dead. :(
The funny thing is that she called me "bipolar".
My 2 stepdaughters cried and hugged me on the day that I had to leave their mom's home. In the following weeks, they were told that I was "loopy" and that I was "mean to their mom" when they were not around. She kept telling everyone that, because I had accused her of having affairs. :( She almost had me believing that I was all wrong about it all. Then the facts started to come out. At best, she had an emotional affair and at worst it was both. :o
