Re:Random Thoughts computerperson: Shanna--I did give the girls gifts before my stbx and I were married, but my stbx took care of all of that after we were married. Is that a yes and a no? (And tell Frid I said hey and I hope he's having a good time.)
RiDE--Sorry for the quick answers, I'm in the middle of something at work but I want to get back to you. I think the youngest girl really liked me, maybe looked up to me. I think the oldest girl didn't like me that much because we butted heads on too many things. I wouldn't let her get her way and that's the way her family works...it revolves around her or my stbx's older sister. Neither flies with me. Their father was very involved for most of the time that my stbx and I were together, he actually had the girls every other week...so they had a father. At least until he took a new job and would only take them every other weekend...I don't know if that has since changed because they live closer together again with my stbx moving. My view on the whole thing is I compared myself to a Uncle...if that makes sense. A live-in uncle, but that's what I thought.
I appreciate everyone's thoughts...I need advice here because I'm the first of my friends to get divorced.
Re:Random Thoughts RecoveringinDE: That's a very accurate description then CP =) An Uncle. Gets to have the fun, but, not the role in parenting. I apologize if I offended you and understand the quick answers as I'm at work myself =) But, this thread caught my eye and had to respond immediately =)
Re:Random Thoughts computerperson: No offense taken...that was the way I was hoping to start out my relationship with my stepdaughters...as a kind of uncle. I didn't expect to jump right into a father role, but since they had an active father, where does one fit in? I was thinking that I would end up somewhere in the middle, if that makes sense.
I did want to help them be better people in the end, that's at least part of what a father is, but I wasn't allowed to give any direction in that sense though.
