Re:Random Thoughts computerperson: RiDE--I also want to thank you for the advice regarding my stepdaughters...I do want to do it for something between them and me, it has nothing to do with my stbx. Now comes the even harder part, what the heck should I write in their cards... (I'll see you Sunday.)
Kin--My question still stands about where to meet women, as I haven't found any good ones yet. So far, I asked someone out for a drink when I was shopping, talked to a few through soccer teams (though I can't play yet because of a back injury) and the ever typical, bars. The odd thing I'm seeing is that the question isn't a question about locations, it's a question of attitude...mine is totally different now. First of all, I'm just trying to have a good time when I'm out...the gal that I talked to while shopping, I was having a good old time just making fun of myself (in a playful way) and it was cracking her up. A lot of the other women, it seems as though they've been attracted to me, talking to me first, and all I'm doing is just being myself...I think my confidence is at an all time high because, while I want to meet someone, I'm just not that worried about it right now. If that makes sense between the two ideas...I just don't go out scanning the room trying to find someone.
Anyway, I don't know if that helps or not...I also am having some family help, my sister has a double date setup for me with a friend of hers in 2 weeks (with my sister and her hubby as the other pair). I'm just going to have fun and meet someone new...if she's interesting, I'll ask for her number, if not, than I'll just do my best to have a good time and hopefully she'll have a good time too.
Keep the faith.
Re:Random Thoughts Shanna: How long were you the step-dad? I personally would probably ask the X about the gift....you don't want the kids to feel rejected or like it was their fault. BUT if you do it this year you should continue to do so for a long while.
Re:Random Thoughts computerperson: Good question...I was a stepdad just a little over a year, but we lived together for almost 2 years (my stbx and I in separate bedrooms while the children were home).
I know I should probably ask the stbx about it, but I'm sure she'd just get snotty with me like normal.
And my hopes were to send something to them this year with more or less a note of closure (nicely put of course). I don't want them to think that I hate or blame them...I would like to give them something out of the goodness of my heart, but I don't want this to become a regular occurance...if that makes sense. And it's not because I dislike them, it's just because it's over and we all should just move on.
Re:Random Thoughts Shanna: In that case it may be better to just let it go. I don't really know bc I haven't been in that situation....I will send Frid....he will have good advice :)
Re:Random Thoughts computerperson: Thanks...I would appreciate any advice I can get.
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