Re:Quit Job? Paul: Guys, I'm talkin' abut quitting IMMEDIATELY here. I'd be breaking my contract. I would be withdrawing the balance of my retirement account so I could continue to pay my share of the mortgage (no, we haven't sold the house yet. Ex is livin' there). I don't even know if I want to wait for a new job. I want out now. It sounds real messy, especially financially. The alternative is staying at a high stress, demanding job. I feel like the principal in "School of Rock", if you've ever seen it.
Re:Quit Job? lifechange: Paul,
This is a huge decision, and one that might not be the best in your condition. I know the impulse of quitting your job sounds good, but the long-term affects don't sound that great. I agree you need emotional support right now, and you need to do what is best for your mental health. Here are a few options (I don't know enough to know if they will work for you):
1: Talk to your principal / district coordinator to see if you could possibly change positions.
2: Join a local divorce / singles group to meet new people.
3: Make arrangements for your parents to come and visit you or vice versa.
It sounds to me like you are making the decision based more on lonliness than on location. I would hate to see you make the drastic move and then realize nothing changed. Hope my opinion helps. Hang in there, and good luck in whatever you decide!
lc
Re:Quit Job? ChristyM: I think you've already made your decision, you just want us to validate it.
I quit my high stress job as a financial analyst in the corporate lending department of a bank and moved a thousand miles away (although I moved to where I didn't know anyone) and I don't regret my decision. The pay is a lot lower but my quality of life -- and my daughter's -- is tons better. Divorce is sometimes the catalyst that shakes us out of our life malaise and helps us realize we aren't living the life we want. Another thing, don't be so concerned about asking for help and leaning on other people. Sometimes there's just no other way. Good luck!
Christy
Re:Quit Job? scrdbyelmo: i didn't quit in time (emotionally) so i in turn got fired....even with the implications you are talking about associated with quitting think about what it will be like if you get fired...then i moved in with my mom and got another job caught up on the atty bills i had to pay and other various things bought the kids christmas and a new vehicle (in my own name), a nice rent house good enough for me and my kids....then i went back to him and lost it all again...but now after having to go through the cycle again (the stupid things we do) i've moved (again) back out of my moms, have a new to me vehicle, nice place for my kids paying off my 2nd atty, and will be buying my kids christmas.....
we all do what we have to do to get by...emotionally you must surround yourself with people who love you...and provide for yourself you must heal
Re:Quit Job? Paul: Well, here's an update. To my own surprise, I'm still determined to quit effective 11/30. It's been three days since I made the decision. I usually only fantasize about this stuff for a day or so, then I come back to reality. I've gone through all the possible ramifications and it should work out fine, especially w/ the support of my folks. I feel as though a force greater than myself is pushing me to do this. Have any of you felt that before when making a big decision?
-Paul
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