Back to the start (I Guess) MadorSad: Well as you can tell my post have lost most of the humor they once had. The reason is simple I'm back to square 1 the W and I talked last night and she explaned that she has tryed but she just is not feeling like she used to about me this time she did tell me that she feels traped and at this point she is only at home for the kids this is a good thing (not the traped part). Any ideas on this would be good she said it is not me that it is her she thinks she has talked to enough people about it so counseling is not the answer.
Anybody read any books about rebuilding a marrage. I really think we can do that we both want to stay and with time and some help I think we can build some thing good.
MadorSad
Re:Back to the start (I Guess) lostinlife: MoS - sending HUGE ((((HUGS)))) to you today.
The only thing that I can say would be to continue the dialog with her. It has been said here, that if you can fall in love, you can fall out of love. I think that the same would be true for falling BACK in love. It will just take more work and time than it did the first time around.
PM me if you need to! I'll be around!
LiL
Re:Back to the start (I Guess) timetobefree: Hey Sug,
Giant hugs for you today! (and well, every day!). I am sorry you are going through this, but if there is a silver lining, you both are being honest, you both know where you stand, and now you can both work on figuring out how to have a future. You are right, she is still there. Regardless of the reason, she is there and you can continue to show her who you are and how much you want this marriage to work. Don't back off...show her that she is the most important thing in the world to you.
I hope this helps some...sending lots of positive vibes your way!
Amy :D
Re:Back to the start (I Guess) lifechange: Hey MS, So sorry you are going through this :( My only advice would be communication. It is so important to keep talking to each other.
Did she say she wants out of the relationship, or is she willing to work on it? If she is willing to work on it, but not willing to go to counseling, I would start the relationship over. Start by going on dates with each other. Try to get to know each other again. Set up specific times to just "talk". Sometimes when the bottom falls out of the relationship, you just need to replace the foundation for the rest to fall in line!
Good luck and IM if you need to talk!
lc
