Re:Snarkbait butters: Easy on the guy, just because you dont agree with his point dosent mean his point is not valid. I think the information he has posted is intersting and think, although it is not true in every situation, it does hold some water.
If you dont like what he is posting dont read it.
Re:Snarkbait lifechange: I just think that there is no intention on learning or healing in his post. I know that I am here to become a better person and learn from others. It doesn't help anyone to be judged.
I am taking your advice and leaving this post alone, only because I realize what cr@p it really is. But I do stand by my convictions that ALL women are not the money hungry, life-destroyers that he is making ALL women to be.
lc
Snarkbait ChristyM: I will continue this dialogue because I think you are wanting an educated debate and not just continuing to bring up this issue for the sake of arguing. I'm always up for some good verbal sparring ...
I'm sure you well know that for every study and article you can produce, someone else can produce one that counters those very statistics being cited. Maybe society as a whole you can paint with a broad brush but when you start looking at smaller sample sizes than the whole population you realize there are so many extenuating circumstances occurring. Not to beat a dead horse, but some of the women on here have already proven to you we got the shaft when it came to our divorce. Sure, my ex pays his child support faithfully but that doesn't make him a good dad. I know of several women on this board that would like nothing more than their exes to be more involved in their children's lives, myself included.
I don't think there's much black and white with regards to this topic. If we just polled the women on this board; how many have exes in jail, how many have a better standard of living, how many initiated the filing completely on their own, how many left of their own volition. I would hazard a guess the results would not support your hypothesis. So many variables are part of who comes out ahead ... level of education of both parties, number and ages of children involved, length of marriage, state the divorce is filed in, infidelity, religion and the list goes on and on. Maybe you did get a raw deal in your divorce and it just so happens you're a man but to reiterate, I got the same sh*tty deal as you did but I'm not trying to dig up some cop out I can try to pin it on to explain it and feel better. Life sucks -- move on.
Christy
Re:Snarkbait Runehawk: caringmom: People may well be here seeking *help*, but insofar as I can see this is a site about *divorce*, not about dispensing feel-good platitudes and PC party lines. Reread what it says on the frontpage of the site: Do you need divorce advice or divorce information? Are you looking for an online support group? Do you feel the need to tell your side of the story?
You're not offering advice; you're getting all snarky at information shared; and you're very obviously not interested in my side of the story.
Frankly, its not my concern if you're p*ssed off or p*ssed on, thankyouverymuch. Just please make sure you clean up after yourself.
lifechange: Sorry; I can only weigh and offer my own experiences. (In my other thread) I'm examining the whole of my own marriage and openly asking: why did I do this? What have I gained? In the end, it just doesn't seem like much at all.
This thread, on the other paw, was only to lightly touch upon the baiting posted in the "Marriage - What's It Good For" thread. ("those of us with half a brain know that all his supposed facts about women being protected by the courts are b*llsh^t"). I just wanted to post a few facts, 'tis all.
ChristyM: It sounds as if you've heard the same quote I have: "there's truth, there's lies, and then there's statistics."
Re:Snarkbait brokenman: [quote author=Runehawk link=board=20;threadid=5596;start=0#msg43244 date=1100892472">
Frankly, its not my concern if you're p*ssed off or p*ssed on, thankyouverymuch. Just please make sure you clean up after yourself.
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That is the most abusive statement I have seen on this site. Good luck in your future victim parades. I will not be attending.
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