Re:a little past 35 simon 17: My advise, for what it's worth is to stop trying to rescue her, and definitely forget about her. You seem to have a pretty good handle on life - she doesn't. Spend your efforts and time on someone who deserves your attention. If you aren't already doing it, get yourself in great shape, work out, run, take care of yourself first and foremost (as well as of the kids). If she comes back, be civil, but forget about trying to make things work, whatever promises she may make. She has had her chances. Take control of the situation and don't let her dictate whether you're going to have a good day or a bad one. Eventually, you will find someone else, much more deserving, and you'll be happier for the tough decision that you have made.
Re:a little past 35 cop501: Wow, your story is a mirror of mine, even the time line and our age. My wife was abusing alcohol and drugs. Left in april (2003) for a guy. I let her back in October and she left the kids and I again in the end of November. In June 04, her relationship with Mr. Wonderful wasn't working out. So I got her an apt. and gave her furniture. In july she met a new Mr. Wonderful and lives with him now. Her apt sit vaccant.
What I can tell you is I just recently stoped being her life line. Everytime I thought I had gotten over all the hurt, she would come back into our lives with promises. Then she would leave again and we would have to start the process all over again. Although I love her she has to grow up and I personaly can't go on this rollercoaster ride anymore. You have to decide if you want to get off the ride. Im off the ride and am sitting back watching her crash and burn right now. When someone leaves a relationship for someone else, most of the time they will crash and burn.
Re:a little past 35 cadillacjack: Thanks for your insight and reply. She called again last night to tell me tbat she is working and trying to pay support but asks that I be cool, that she may be late. I want to scream at her and wonder how she can just walk out, leave her kids and our lives. She acts so nonchalant, how can someone just up leave and not feel the others pain or love?
I hoping I don't short out my keyboard with the tears right now...
