Re:How bad is it...really? ChrisJane: My STBX attempted this also. And after filing, I got depressed because it was looking like it was cheaper to keep him.
But I set up a budget, calculated all the marital debt, split it up to his vs. mine and splitting the debts in both our names in half, I can have everything buy my house paid off in 3 to 4 years.
Your STBX wants to keep his control over you leaving you in fear of losing everything financially. You'll be okay.
When my STBX left, I had no money, couldn't get support for 3 months, and only worked part time. You may have to eat mac/cheese and hot dogs more often but you will find it in you to make ends meet and survive without him!
Re:How bad is it...really? janee: I am financially struggling. Basically, I have been laid off from my temporary on-call job, have bills to be paid, and practically starving to pay my bills. My truck, which was paid off, died on me. So I had to get another vehicle, more economical, at least, and have to make payments. And my mortgage. I am going to have to get a roommate. Not too crazy about renting to some stranger. The job market is so tight and competitive. I get interviews, but have been turned town. Can't even find a b.s. job because its also competitive. Does not help my self-esteem. Maybe this is payback for divorcing my ex. Just need to vent. I am tired of struggling. Have been the past two years. I'm not talking about being rich, but I want to have money to pay bills on time, to eat, and the basics. Its frustrating. Prices keep going up and jobs are hard to find. Even though I don't have kids, its still a major struggle. ???
