Re: home achingallover: Hey inebr...I will take your hug and see you a hug! ;)
I know, it's very complicated. I am really trying to understand that secure place myself. I know you are exactly right in the sense that we have to keep ourselves in our next relationship. We certainly can't give that up again. But we also have to allow ourselves to be somewhat vulnerable in order to create a relationship, I think. RIght now, the vulnerability just scares the s**t out of me! I mean, I cannot fathom trusting anyone else ever again. But my head also knows that I am in the thick of this right now with him. I have faith that when I get a year out, I will have a different perspective on this. I think you are totally right. I think it's a balancing act - giving enough but not too much. UGH!!! Aren't relationships hard?! :P
Re: home Elskeren: Aching:
I found old friends and new age books to help alot. Reading in self-help books and literature helps alot. You will need time for yourself everyday, but also try hook up with close family members and old friends, those help too. I found movies to be disturbing in the first while, especially if there is a love story in em.
best wishes and a big hug :)
