Re: No Wonder I am going Crazy grober: I had tried to work things out with my X during our separation. For the most part she was cold and unreceptive to any attempt I made. Then when I decided to pursue the divorce, she wanted to be freinds. She "missed me" and started calling just to see how I was doing. Even offered to have a "slumber party" a couple of times. She wanted to hang out and do all kinds of things with me. The more focused I became on the divorce, the more eager she became to be more "friendly".
Why do they do that? I don't know. Maybe they realize that they will actually lose you (imagine that). A person can want to be out of a relationship, but when it comes right down to it, they don't realize what it means to be "free". Although my X never talked reconciliation, I feel that if I'd been receptive to her advances, it would have come to that. It was too late, I wanted a divorce by that time.
I understand your frustration and anger. Given his past (leaving - coming back - leaving), I think you've allowed him enough time to get his sh!t together. It is all about what you want now. Stay focused on the divorce process. Vent as often as you need to (don't worry about sensitive ears here).
Take care.
