Re: Feeelings & Manipulation Bob-Bob: I know my situation is different, But when my s2bx started telling me that she had no car, no job, no money... (I know she has a car, her mother told me) I of course felt like she was trying to manipulate me. But this was, in myopinion her trying to manipulate my feelings instead of expressing hers...
But I can tell you there is a difference in the way I listen to her now, I have an emotional wall torward her. I tormented myself by telling her things like, "I miss you every hour of every day", "I love you", "I care for you deeply". But now I give her no emotion, I want to... every time I hear her voice or see her I feel the desire to just break down and tell her how important our marriage was to me, how important she was to me. But I will not give her that satisfaction anymore because she will use my feelings against me.
But she has given me reason to believe she is manipulating me.
Re: Feeelings & Manipulation down2basics: Hey Steph,
I know how hard it is to deal with someone who is ice cold. God Bless you sweetie! I'm proud of you though...you survived it and are moving on...that's terrific! Bless your heart! I too am sending you big warm hugs! I just wish I could delivery it in person! Man oh Man! Talk about your prime idiots! I have no idea (other than the Macho Man theory) why men choose to "hold it in" like that. Be manly...yeah right - whatever! It would make this a lot easier to deal with if he did have at least one emotion or something!
What an @$$!!!
I'm right there with you sweetie! Hang in there and be strong!
God Bless You!
d2b
Re: Feeelings & Manipulation achingallover: Thanks d2 - I know, cyber hugs are good - but in person hugs are better! But I"ll take what I can get... ;)\
Yeh, it's so funny - I was just talking to my neighbor across the street who was told by my stbx that we are getting a divorce. He told her I think 2 weeks ago. She was traumatized by it! Anyway, she said , "yeh, the way he said it was wierd...he was all smiles and happy about it"... TALK ABOUT YOUR EMOTIONAL FREAKS!!!
I have no idea what this man is doing. This is the strangest thing I have ever come across. He is really going off the deep end, from my opinion.
Strange man. Afriad of emotion. Unable to feel. I'll never figure it out.
hugs-
Steph
Re: Feeelings & Manipulation down2basics: Nope - you'll never figure it out because we are emotional people. Our emotions are our outlet. Women are not as likely to die of heart attacks and the like because we let it out - Men don't! Macho meatfaces! I, just like you, don't get it! Never will...other than I know it's my safety valve. I'd explode if I didn't let some of those emotions out. He'll find that he's going to need an explosion or two to get over this - you'll see!!!
Hugs!
d2b
Re: Feeelings & Manipulation achingallover: Yeh, I imagine he will need an exlosion. I just will be glad I am not around to see it...oooohhh guts everywhere...
hugs-
Steph
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