Ladies gulfcoast: .
Re:Ladies moser: I wish I could. I would like nothing more than to never see or hear from him again. I don't contact him (except to ask him to sign the divorce agreement and to get his stuff out of my house) The fact that he calls me every day makes it hard not to have contact.
Although, I guess he didn't technically leave me. I'm the one who decided I didn't want to be apart of his wife and girlfriend fantasy life.
My hope is that I won't have to talk to him once the divorce is final. Since there aren't any children, it should be possible. However, he keeps saying 'who knows, maybe he will finally grow up and we can get back together someday'. This makes me think he wants to keep me in his life, in case, the girlfriend doesn't work out. Here's hopin - PaLease!!
Re:Ladies simon 17: if you're asking because you left her and she hasn't made any effort to contact you, most likely what she's doing is calling your bluff.
Re:Ladies browngreen: Wow,
That's a strong message to send.
I'd back WAY off and respect it.
She can't NOT talk to you forever. She knows this.
But it's in your best interest to not provoke her. You left her, if you talk to her now, you've got it coming. I'd give it another week and drop her an email, or leave her a nice message on her phone asking her to lunch because you have a couple of questions-- but don't give her any false hope.
I don't know the situation (like if you left her because she's cheating on you), but time with NC is GOOD for couples, even ones that are no longer going to be couples.
My ideal when we were planning on divorcing was to move to another city with no forwarding address, no phone #, no way to contact me except through my parents or sister.
Now that we're not "planning" a divorce, bt I'm still moving out, I think I'll still leave it like that-- no contact for a while, and then only sparse contact.
But I want to do this because I'm afraid if we talk, we'll end up fighting, and I don't want to fight. Fighting will only erode what remaining love we have. The love I want to build on. I'd rather have the mystery and I'd rather remember that I love him and live my life with that on my mind.
I know I"ll eventually have to contact him someday, but for a month, maybe two, I think letters would work best... the snail mail kind.
If he decides he needs a D, I"d rather hear it in a letter.
Ok.
That's my story, and I"m sticking to it.
BG
Re:Ladies tyrogers: Hey Gulf. U know my current story. I can't wait for mine to leave now! LOL
Hopefully I can grab you on IM soon.
Much love-
Ty
