How can I let him go? blueberry pancake: It's almost 8 months since my husband left me. He left me and our 2 boys ( one 4 and one 1) for a slut he met at a bar. She didn't have a job and lived with her parents. The way i define people, she didn't seem too appealing. Anyway, I felt like if I waited long enough, He'd come back to me and the boys. I just don't understand. I have so much to offer. I have a great Job. I'm attractive. I have those 2 beautiful boys. Why doesn't he want me?
I'd been letting the boys spend every other weekend with him at his new house as long as super slut didn't spend the night (b/c it's to weird for the boys) - and that went well for the past 2 times but last time she spent the night. And my 4 year old told me all about it. I was mad and told him they wouldn't be coming back there anymore and that he wasn't welcome at my house until we met somewhere to talk.
He met me the next day. And he just did a bunch of crying. Real actual tears. Its like he can't stand to look at me. I explained that he can see the boys all he wants at home and that i wasn't going to share my parenting with his latest whore. We talked about Christmas and what to boys want. He didn't even know and cryed b/c he didn't know.
I asked him if she was as much fun as us. He said no. I asked if he missed us, he said yes. I told him if he wanted to come home christmas would be a great time to do it. I asked him if he was thinking about coming home, he said No.
I feel so stupid. I just can't let go even thought he's fucking some whore while I work so hard to pay all the bills and raise our kids.
And I feel so stupid because i would take him back. I still love him. We've been married for the past 8 years. The divorce is still creeping along. I hate it so much.
And I'm so sad too. Not just for me, but for the boys. My oldest knows what it's like to have Daddy around but my little one was only 1 year old when he left, and he'll never remember what it was like.
How can I let go of him? This is so hard.
I'm thinking about taking a job 3 states over, it's closer to more family. Do you thinking moving away would help me?
Thanks for listening.
-Blueberry
Re:How can I let him go? whathef?: Probably will be easier further away.
I know it was for me when the stbx left the first time and moved 3 hours away.
I hope for the best for you.
Hang in there, it gets better.
John
Re:How can I let him go? legionuvdoom: i don't know what to tell u, because i'm kinda in the same position as u, except that i have no children. My ex left me for someone who seems to be a bigger loser than me, and i was so loyal to her, even from a cynical point of view, i can't believe she gave me up. She always said that outside of her mother, who's getting older and has health problems, that i was all she had in this world. She said she wanted to be my wife and have my children. Then she just ups and leaves for this guy. Then like a week later, she wanted him to go to her mother's for Thanksgiving. I don't understand.
Re:How can I let him go? hardened_heart1970: how attractive? just kidding. made you laugh. it hurts when the OP is a scum bucket. doesnt boost my moral. good luck.....
