Re:how do you heal from infidelity? hf1: I think I have set some pretty clear boundaries with my stbx. He does not live here anymore, which took a lot of courage on my part to tell him to live on the boat. Of course it is in the back of my mind that I am just giving him more of an excuse to see and date his little girlfriend. I am trying to shield my son from him by not allowing him to pick my son up from school, because I don't want my stbx to introduce the two, my stbx comes here to visit during set hours, he comes at 4, when I bring my son home from school, and then my stbx leaves almost right after my son goes to bed. He has promised to me that he will always be a friend to me, and I told him I did not want to be his friend, and that it is not fair for him to ask that of me. It is a pretty big jump to go from wife to just a friend. I told him perhaps someday down the road, but we shall see. I told him my house is not a laundromat. He either comes and spends time with his son, or does not come at all. I told him he is either completely a part of his son's life, or he is not. There is no inbetweeen. I told him I do not want him introducing our son to her under any circumstances, or anyone else he may date. I would not do that to a 4 year old and I don't want him to. Atleast I can say I was faithful and took my vows seriously, I told him last night that I hoped him abandoning his family and pushing everyone away is worth it, and I hoped she is worth it, because I don't think he will ever realize what he has lost. I don't want to stay, and if I could leave I would, but I am student-teaching from Jan. to April, then I am moving back home. I already have a new house I will be renting with my son, and hope to have a good teaching job next fall.
