Re:how do you heal from infidelity? OldSchool: HF1,
Well it sounds like you have a plan going forward... Awesome!!! Yeah, i do know what you're saying about tuning out certain emotions and feelings but heck let it go. I mean, those SOBs that decide to be selfish in the midst of a marraige will be crying much longer than we ever will. Be glad you're not the girlfriend. Can you imagine what she's going to go thru? shoot.....
Re:how do you heal from infidelity? RecoveringinDE: HF1,
You will find that many of the spouses who leave or cheat say pretty much the same thing. My ex told me he loved me, but wasn't in love with me. That he wasn't happy for a long time. That he wanted to work on things with me, then less than a week later he said he wanted out of the marriage and that he had feelings for the woman who was "helping" him understand things better. We also have a 4 year old. She is the light of my life and I hate that she has to go through this.
((Hugs)) and good luck!
RiDE
Re:how do you heal from infidelity? hf1: Well, he called her today, when I was home! I specifically heard him tell her he loves her. When is this hurt ever going to go away? He is now living on the boat and not in the house. I thought it would be better for everyone if he was not here. I have never felt so betrayed in all of my life. Please tell me it is going to get easier. I am just not seeing it right now. All I know is how hurt I feel and wish to God I could stop second guessing myself and crying over him. I just can't believe he called her and told her he loved her...like I was not going to hear him. How can I heal from this? I feel so torn apart inside. I have recieved a lot of support from my family, but it doesn't make up for the fact that my stbx has betrayed me in this way. Is there any references out there I can look into to aid in the healing process? :'(
Re:how do you heal from infidelity? OldSchool: The best references are on here that I know of... keep reading peoples stories and go back as far as you can to search for similar circumstances. I'm sure there are others that will chime in to give you more resources.
Re:how do you heal from infidelity? Bryan in VA: HF1,
Hang in there. There will be many moments of confusion & a few moments of true clarity. I'm sorry you are going thru this. I know how much it hurts, I'm in the same boat. I was betrayed by my wife for 3 months. I have a 3 yr son who is the most important thing to me. Remember your son & do what is best for him. You will know when the time comes.
Time does heal & you will realize that there is a new life out there for you. It's good to focus on you and your son's your future. A teacher you say. GOOD.
PS: Not all in the Navy are bad. I have spent 14 years in the Navy & never cheated on my wife (Married 10 yrs). It's not my style. She cheated on me while I was on deployment. I was very naive & trusting!!!
This site has helped me. Keep reading & know that you are not alone.
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