Re: Do the right things mystic22: I wouldlike to share my experience in here. I was a cheater, i did cheat on my boyfriend, even i said that it something i am really still regretting. Right now, we are still try to work it out. Easiest i know will be just to move on. But i dont one to. As the most important lesson i learn that how i actually trully care for him. I am learning for my mistakes and still trying to get his trust back. I believe, if you are trully love a person, no matter how hard and difficult the situation, patience, effort and time are essential. I love this guy, i trully do. Every single day, i am trying to prove myself to him to be honest and loyal. I dont know when my hopes that this trust one day will be achieved. But i am walking on the fire to face all the difficulties to fix what i broke.
Re: Do the right things OldSchool: Good luck... you'll have to do much more than walk on fire. It will take a very concerted effort to build trust back. That might not even be enough... be prepared for him not to open himself back to you. If he does, then it's truly a gift you've been given.
Re: Do the right things in_search_of: Good luck, as I have said talking to many people lately, not only do you have to walk on a bed of nails, it will be on fire. Its much harder to rebuild a relationship than it is to build one from scratch. If you were starting from scratch, there would not be the constant fear in your other half that you were going to revert to the person who hurt him, always just under the surface for quite some time will linger that doubt that you are really changing. Under the surface, the memory is going to linger of what you have done. And in the end, you are going to have to work at least twice as hard to rebuild it as you did to build it, because you have to prove not only that you love him, but also that you have changed.
However, this is not a one way street, few relationships are, I have a feeling that for your relationship to be healthy and functional, there are things that you BOTH have to change, you have to have a serious conversation, to find out if you want to work, if he is going to allow you to do the work you need to do to gain his trust, and leave the past in the past. If he is going to continuously use this against you, and get in jabs based on this, then it will not work, as their has to be some real forgiveness.
Good luck.
