Re:I need a leavee... clambakesX: [quote author=lemondrop link=board=6;threadid=6101;start=0#msg48624 date=1103033054">
who have been dumped and crushed by some thoughless chick who didn't know just how good she had it when she did the dumping.
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girl, you're doing better than I am. I am so burned out of guys bringing up the freaking wanna-be-a-daddy line within the first few dates, that I'm now only considering guys who've been dumped AND left with a couple of kids and managed to keep a full-time job and run a household without dumping the kids on someone else. Heck, a nervous breakdown in there somewhere is absolutely okay with me.
except now I hear that LuvSponge also has stock in the NJBs from Vermont ... swoon ...
Re:I need a leavee... Beren: LD, I feel the same. I met a girl last summer who I thought was quite cute and she seemed nice enough, but as soon as I found out she was a leaver, I lost all my attraction for her. Poof!
I don't think I'd want to be with someone who (1) didn't understand the pain I suffered, and (2) caused that pain to someone else.
This isn't to say that I don't think there aren't times when I think leaving is justified. I'm a reasonable guy. But I need to understand the conditions and come to agree with the decision. Of course, it's hard to ask about it without making it sound like a job interview.
Beren
Re:I need a leavee... jason_stl: Well I am a leaver though my story is more of being left than doing the leaving part. There just comes a time when you know enough is enough and something has to change, someone has to commit to one course of action or another.
*shrugs*
I never really put much thought into who did the leaving, only who was the one committing adultery and who was the one that stayed true to their moral fiber.
Re:I need a leavee... Beren: Jake, I think when most of us define "leaver" and "leavee," we mean it emotionally. Technically, I'm a leaver, too. My wife told me she didn't love me any more, and I spent several months trying to rebuild the marriage, but she would never show any willingness whatsoever to giving the marriage a chance. So I left. And even then, it was with the hope that putting some distance between us would make her miss me enough to want to work it out. Instead, she filed.
Maybe I'm wrong, but I consider myself a leavee, and by your story, I'd probably consider you one, too.
Beren
Re:I need a leavee... lemondrop: Medusa - that was the best laugh I've had in a while!!! LMAO!!! Thank you!!! : )
Jake - I would consider you a leavee... any woman that betrayed you like that is a definite leaver in my book... to me it doesn't matter who filed the papers - it's more about who left who emotionally (yeah - what Beren said - smile). FYI - I know of a girl right now (a friend of a friend) who is cheating on her husband (he doesn't know it yet) - and it absolutely sickens me. But she is staying with him because she can't afford a place of her own. That is just plain sick and wrong in my book. So technically she might not define herself as a "leaver" since she's still milking this guy for everything he's worth and living under his roof BUT, in my book, once you wind up in someone else's bed, you've left the marriage. That's my opinion anyway.
Bubba - fried chicken AND ice cream??? You ARE the perfect man!!! : )
Hugs,
Lemondrop
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