Oy. My STBX told his *mother* that I was having a fling tara: And then, he told me he told his mother.
I would like to say "I can't fathom why" -- but I have a suspicion. (And, yes, I am seeing someone, so it's not a lie. And I'm not keeping it a closely guarded secret or anything. But still. The woman lives in another *state*. And he used the word "fling," which, yes, I've used, too, but this is his MOTHER and she's going to hear "fling" and think "Tara's a ho." And then I type "ho" and realize I'm nearly 30 and this is all very juvenile. Anyhow.)
It's probably to make himself feel better about the fact that he is living with a GF and her kids already, and of course his mother is not quite comfortable with the whole idea. (His mom also expressed disapproval, because we're still married on paper, and this is just a little too much flaunting-the-adultery thing.)
"Oh, don't worry about my own adultery, Tara's out getting her swerve on with some guy -- and , hey, he's still married on paper, too! She's doubly adulterous, so she has no right to complain." (OK, not what he said...)
And, no, I don't mind that he's living with the GF -- she's a very nice person, they seem to love each other a lot, even though it's monumentally stupid to move in with someone -- someone with kids, no less -- this quickly. It's not really my concern.
But...gah!...why is my life any of his business, much less hers?
I did speak up, at least, and let him know I'd appreciate that he not give personal answers to "how's Tara doing?" A simple -- "fine, job's good, she loves living in the city" -- would suffice. I've known this woman for more than a decade -- she would not ask anything more personal than that. She wouldn't have asked if I was seeing anyone. Nope.
GAAAAHHH! >:( >:( >:(
Re:Oy. My STBX told his *mother* that I was having a fling computerperson: tara--Sorry to hear about your problem...I imagine it's difficult to just stop thinking about his family when you've been involved with them for the last 10 years.
Just try to keep your head up, he's probably bad-mouthing you just to make himself feel better and feel better about his choices.
Re:Oy. My STBX told his *mother* that I was having a fling MadorSad: tara
It is simple he is drownding in guilt plan and simple. He is tyring to get rid of it but he will not and other people will see it just sit back and watch the fire works when they come :o
MoS
Re:Oy. My STBX told his *mother* that I was having a fling tara: [quote author=computerperson link=board=20;threadid=6105;start=0#msg48714 date=1103058325">
tara--Sorry to hear about your problem...I imagine it's difficult to just stop thinking about his family when you've been involved with them for the last 10 years.
Just try to keep your head up, he's probably bad-mouthing you just to make himself feel better and feel better about his choices.
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It's not even so much that he's bad-mouthing me -- I mean, I'm an adult, I'm not ashamed of my choices, "Tara is having a fling" is a very accurate statement (I'm not religious, and my state is 100% no fault, so they don't care either). Still. What it is is my private business.
Thanks, CP (and MoS).
Yes, the fireworks will be spectacular, won't they?
Re:Oy. My STBX told his *mother* that I was having a fling OldSchool: Wow, he told his mother... so is she going to call your mom and tattle on you? WTF? When caught in a lie, people will do anything to save face, anything! Yeah, just sit back and don't sweat this one. One day it'll blow up totally in his face and you won't have to be around to witness it. You'll just know it'll happen...
OS
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