do they really regret it later on? legionuvdoom: I notice that alot of posters seem to believe that the person who left them will regret it later on, but is there any proof of this? I mean i don't know how important it really is, but i would feel a little better if i knew my ex realized what she threw away.
Re:do they really regret it later on? brokenman: There most definately will be a time, if only a fleeting moment, when they will have memories of a happier time and regret what they have done. Perhaps there is some sicko out there that won't but I would say it is the rule and not the exception that they regret it at some point. But we really shouldn't kid ourselves. Some will feel like they have ruined their lives and feel pain over it forever. Others will just cry themselves to sleep a night or two. But they are all going to get over it. Nobody can live their life constantly wringing their hands over the evils they have done. So, personally, I figure my ex really was sorry at some point but whether I find out or not doesn't matter. It had to happen.
What is interesting to me is that of many people I have met on Ojar, they initially wanted their stbxs to suffer and feel bad. In the end though, when the stbxs finally felt bad it was just pitiful. When the hammer fell there was no point in wanting that misery on anyone. I include myself here. Because my ex did come back crying and apologizing. Perhaps not out of pure guilt and regret, but maybe over her breakup with the OM and lonliness. Just pitiful.
Re:do they really regret it later on? jjbswest: This is the same thing I have been wondering and everyone tells me there will be a time that he will regret what he has lost. Even family and friends say that some day he will probably regret it and may even want me back. (although they are hoping that I am over him by then). But, i often wonder the same things. I do want him to regret it. I do want him to want me back whether or not I still want him.
Re:do they really regret it later on? richmds: Yes they will regret, at least from a male perspective. From relationships past and from what my male friends have confided in me. Some are the ones that screwed up and they may put up a defense when the smoke is clear they do feel regret. But as Brokenman puts it, sometimes they also realize damage is done, but the feeling of hurting someone is always with them, and they try to just move past it.
Re:do they really regret it later on? lvaughn24: I hope mine does regret it. We were together for a very long time and went through so much everyone telling us we were stupid and it would never work. we made it work for 7 years and it was great until the last 6 months or so.
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